Kids as an "excuse" to stay home

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Kids as an "excuse" to stay home
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Fri, 08-15-2008 - 2:16pm

No one would likely ever admit to this...but what percentage of women who stay at home, and have no plans to ever return to the work force, or to do more than work PT...stay home because of the kids, but also for the major fact that they simply don't want to work?


I don't love my job every second, and there's definitely jobs out there that I don't think I could get out of bed for every day. But the idea of never working again, and being completely dependent on my spouse...kind of blows my mind. I realize not everyone's of the same ilk, and one's not better than the other.


I do wonder how many of the women who go on and on about how great it is to be home with the kids, are primarily just relieved to not have to punch the clock every day in addition to being mom.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-21-2008 - 11:23am

Oh I wish I were you in that respect. I've gotten more relaxed with each one. I just don't

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Thu, 08-21-2008 - 11:24am

no perfect answer indeed..i know dual working parents who make very good money but are still alarmed by expensive college costs.


ot but i thought of you yesterday.

 

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 08-21-2008 - 11:34am

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Why and who said nothing occurs while parents are at work?

PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 08-21-2008 - 11:38am

I'm curious to hear the answer to my question about needing a valid reason to woh.


PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 08-21-2008 - 11:43am

Oh, I know it doesn't meant that woh aren't raising their kids because they woh, actually we both know that, since you work as well....it's simply not logical because raising doesn't always occur during working hours.


<raising only happens during working hours. rofl.

PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 08-21-2008 - 11:53am

"She posts in support of both sides od the debate - woh or sah"

I'm glad SOMEONE noticed that. Then again, I guess when I post in support of woh, it just isn't as fun.

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Thu, 08-21-2008 - 12:00pm

"This is not so much a debate board, but a discussion board, an opinion board. "

I'm noticing that. You gotta go with the flow.

I enjoyed my Public Speaking Club in high school. One of the things we did was Student Congress where "laws" were debated by student Representatives and Senators, and the chairman/judge was a moderator. My mom was always disappointed that I didn't want to get into law :)

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Thu, 08-21-2008 - 12:02pm

"B) the providers never shared that they saw something first and would only mention much of the practice AFTER you said, "hey, guess what Andrew did last night?""

Yes, this is a sure sign of a good provider! But, for the sake of debate, it really is to assuage the parent. It doesn't mean the parent didn't miss anything.

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Thu, 08-21-2008 - 12:04pm

"Sure, I've missed stuff. That's why any work status has tradeoffs. Shrug."

You and I agreed on another thread about the trade-offs. At least you acknowledge that there are some!

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Thu, 08-21-2008 - 12:04pm
I don't suppose you HAVE to have one but it would beneficial to help someone understand why they choose to work even if they did not need the money.

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