Kids as an "excuse" to stay home

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Kids as an "excuse" to stay home
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Fri, 08-15-2008 - 2:16pm

No one would likely ever admit to this...but what percentage of women who stay at home, and have no plans to ever return to the work force, or to do more than work PT...stay home because of the kids, but also for the major fact that they simply don't want to work?


I don't love my job every second, and there's definitely jobs out there that I don't think I could get out of bed for every day. But the idea of never working again, and being completely dependent on my spouse...kind of blows my mind. I realize not everyone's of the same ilk, and one's not better than the other.


I do wonder how many of the women who go on and on about how great it is to be home with the kids, are primarily just relieved to not have to punch the clock every day in addition to being mom.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-21-2008 - 9:07pm
I agree! And once again the first time I see my children do somethign is amazing..even if they have done it several times or hundreds of times.
july siggy
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Thu, 08-21-2008 - 9:11pm

The school where I teach holds several of those types of events every year. Yes they are cutesy but those tend to draw ppl in more than the parent meetings about how to help your child succeed n school, appropriate tv viewing etc. Quite honestly it's a logistical nightmare at many schools to carry out these kinds of things...and spreading it out over several days is not feasible. However parents are ALWAYS welcome to stay for breakfast, eat lunch, read a book to the children, whatever.

july siggy
august 09 siggy
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Registered: 08-03-2008
Thu, 08-21-2008 - 10:01pm
I work FT and I miss an hour and a half after school. Which is time the kids (in the past when I did not work FT) used to spend riding their bikes around the neighborhood, so I'm not really missing anything.
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Registered: 08-03-2008
Thu, 08-21-2008 - 10:08pm
Because at the time I couldn't earn enough for it to be worth it for me to WOH, and I had a preemie who required a lot of special attention.
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Registered: 08-03-2008
Thu, 08-21-2008 - 10:11pm
You know, for someone who talks the talk of non-materialism, you certainly are awful preoccupied with money and what people can afford. I mean, who cares?
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Registered: 08-03-2008
Thu, 08-21-2008 - 10:19pm
Heck, I was a SAHM when both of my kids were babies, and I don't remember a lick about their firsts, other than the fact that they did them at some point. When your kid is 8 or 15 or 20, do you really care that he was 10 months and 3 days old when he took his first step? (Although I do realize that apparently this matters to some people.)
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Registered: 08-03-2008
Thu, 08-21-2008 - 10:40pm
My dd calls all children sisters and brothers, all adults mommy and daddy, and all older people grandma and grandpa. (When she doesn't know their names.)
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Thu, 08-21-2008 - 11:47pm

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I think if you had echoed my words, I think it would have been more of a volley, but changing it to the extreme, puts it in a different view, wouldn't you think?


PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 08-21-2008 - 11:52pm

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Which of course brings me right back to my statement, it's fascinating that so many things only occur during working hours.


PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 08-21-2008 - 11:59pm

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No, not true.

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