Kids as an "excuse" to stay home

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Registered: 04-08-2003
Kids as an "excuse" to stay home
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Fri, 08-15-2008 - 2:16pm

No one would likely ever admit to this...but what percentage of women who stay at home, and have no plans to ever return to the work force, or to do more than work PT...stay home because of the kids, but also for the major fact that they simply don't want to work?


I don't love my job every second, and there's definitely jobs out there that I don't think I could get out of bed for every day. But the idea of never working again, and being completely dependent on my spouse...kind of blows my mind. I realize not everyone's of the same ilk, and one's not better than the other.


I do wonder how many of the women who go on and on about how great it is to be home with the kids, are primarily just relieved to not have to punch the clock every day in addition to being mom.


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Registered: 01-02-2008
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 12:05am

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Which of course brings me right back to my statement, it's fascinating that so many things only occur during working hours."

*sigh*

First of all, where did I say "only" ? And second of all, if *that's* what you get out of my distinction of the use of the word "regularly" well then I guess we'll have to agree to disagree.

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Fri, 08-22-2008 - 12:40am
Yep.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 1:51am
The tea was equally about you, not the child. So, even if you expand the category, it is still a question why it would be a problem for your kids if you missed some of those things.
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Registered: 07-12-2005
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 7:06am

It's not the "regularly", it's the "wouldn't be". You are saying you were involved in things staying home that you wouldn't be involved in if you worked. Which indicates that you can or will do it only when staying home.


Which may very well be true for you.


But if it is used in a context in which you are trying to prove that another mother's point about not missing things is false, than the idea that other mothers would be involved in things when staying home that they wouldn't be involved in when they work is a broad assumption, not a universal truth.


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Registered: 04-24-2008
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 7:20am

Excellent point, EGD.


And it's funny how it's taboo to discuss the economy and its call for dual-incomes, unless in the context of how we SAHMs can't afford formula and dance lessons for our kids, lol.

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Registered: 05-14-2006
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 7:43am

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Registered: 04-24-2008
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 8:13am

It's practically 95% in support of woh over sah that there's just no need!!

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 8:18am

actually, that's not true. I'd bet it's 95% in support of "whatever works for your family -- neither way is better than the other"....vs. support for sah is the ONLY way to raise children (and if you're not a sahm you're doing it wrong).

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Registered: 07-18-2007
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 8:19am

it's nice to know those of us who have choices in sah or woh don't have to worry about some bottom line dollar and can actually determine our outside choices by what it is we really want to do


Yes, it is nice to have choices.

Yeah well, that's just, ya know, like, your opinion, man-The Big Lebowski 

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Registered: 04-24-2008
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 8:24am

Oh, well.

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