Kids as an "excuse" to stay home

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Registered: 04-08-2003
Kids as an "excuse" to stay home
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Fri, 08-15-2008 - 2:16pm

No one would likely ever admit to this...but what percentage of women who stay at home, and have no plans to ever return to the work force, or to do more than work PT...stay home because of the kids, but also for the major fact that they simply don't want to work?


I don't love my job every second, and there's definitely jobs out there that I don't think I could get out of bed for every day. But the idea of never working again, and being completely dependent on my spouse...kind of blows my mind. I realize not everyone's of the same ilk, and one's not better than the other.


I do wonder how many of the women who go on and on about how great it is to be home with the kids, are primarily just relieved to not have to punch the clock every day in addition to being mom.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 8:28am

"it's nice to know those of us who have choices in sah or woh don't have to worry about some bottom line dollar and can actually determine our outside choices by what it is we really want to do not have to do."


That's only because your family's financial goals are lower than other families'.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 8:32am

"Parents who don't need the second income don't work.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 8:33am
I strongly support you being a SAHM.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-24-2008
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 8:34am

Are you saying you didn't need a second income when John was a minor?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 8:35am

Do you support SAH over WOH for all families, not just your own?


I do not think WOH is better for all parents, even though both DH and I WOH.


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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-24-2008
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 8:35am
Of course.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-24-2008
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 8:38am

I'm sorry if debate offends you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 8:48am
If you lived in your community, but your DH earned egd's DH's salary, would you WOH?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 8:49am

??


Do you think I should SAH?


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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-24-2008
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 8:56am
Not now.

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