Kids as an "excuse" to stay home

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Registered: 04-08-2003
Kids as an "excuse" to stay home
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Fri, 08-15-2008 - 2:16pm

No one would likely ever admit to this...but what percentage of women who stay at home, and have no plans to ever return to the work force, or to do more than work PT...stay home because of the kids, but also for the major fact that they simply don't want to work?


I don't love my job every second, and there's definitely jobs out there that I don't think I could get out of bed for every day. But the idea of never working again, and being completely dependent on my spouse...kind of blows my mind. I realize not everyone's of the same ilk, and one's not better than the other.


I do wonder how many of the women who go on and on about how great it is to be home with the kids, are primarily just relieved to not have to punch the clock every day in addition to being mom.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 1:10pm

Aha, I think I've figured out the miscommunication!


<< but go right ahead,pka's sol does require two incomes.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 1:10pm
I think the point is that if some of the WOHMs here decided not to save for their kids' college for example, they would probably not need that second income either. IOW, it is not about "more" in a materialistic crass sense.
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Registered: 01-15-2006
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 1:18pm
and i know how much income we have too.

 

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 1:26pm

<< please do elaborate on whatever point you're trying to make because what we have is doable on one income.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 1:29pm

your choices aren't about income?


What if it required more income in order to afford horse back riding lessons and American Girl Dolls?


You constantly refer to ALL the THINGS that you can afford on dh's income.

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Ducky

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 1:30pm

so what are you saying..that the choice to fully fund college rides for their kid is what requires their second income?

 

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 1:33pm

<<mine isn't.......what's so wrong in a dual wohm admittng that her additional income requires her standard of living esp considering the fact that w/o it,there wouldn't be the choices she's able to have with it?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 1:35pm

What requires your second income?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 1:37pm

".......what's so wrong in a dual wohm admittng that her additional income requires her standard of living esp considering the fact that w/o it,there wouldn't be the choices she's able to have with it?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-22-2008 - 1:37pm
So what do you do with the money you make?

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