Kids home alone: diff between SAH/WOH?

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Kids home alone: diff between SAH/WOH?
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Tue, 05-06-2008 - 2:08pm

I was talking with a friend who is a FT WOHM. She said she was really dismayed that there isn't much after school child care available for middle school kids (MS here is grades 6-8) and that the school seemed to expect the kids to come home and be alone for a few hours after school.

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Wed, 05-07-2008 - 4:14pm

I think "consistently" is where you can run into problems.

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Wed, 05-07-2008 - 4:19pm

a guaranteed unsupervised 3 hours a day in an empty house can give even some pretty good kids ideas.


Combine that with boredom, or new *love*, or any number of other things and, imo, it's a recipe for TROUBLE.


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Ducky

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Wed, 05-07-2008 - 4:28pm

My experience is like yours.

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Wed, 05-07-2008 - 4:31pm
Exactly.
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Wed, 05-07-2008 - 4:34pm

"We’re supposed to speculate that sahps raise their kids right—so they are responsible and dependable and independent in a way that the children of wohps aren’t? Or that wohps simply don’t spend enough time with their own kids to realize when they are ready to be home alone?"


Nope, you're wrong. You're not *supposed* to speculate that at all, at least that's not why I posted my question. But you are free to think anything you want, so if that is your opinion, fine. I really did mean what I said in my OP.


"I know, I know, television is a teaching tool, wii’s provide *great* exercise, and having

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Registered: 05-27-1998
Wed, 05-07-2008 - 4:37pm

They're out at 2:20 (or 3:20, if they do any after school activities, which the majority do). Kids who don't do after school activities can do homework at school, then take the 3:20 bus home. It's a regional school, so many kids have long bus rides. Even though we're only 4 mi from school, my daughter is on the bus for 35 minutes.

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Wed, 05-07-2008 - 5:00pm

Just an FYI........


Chimaira has been here for MANY years, lol.


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Back to our regularly scheduled debate.


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Ducky

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Wed, 05-07-2008 - 5:07pm

IME, women who find it important enough to ctsah when kids are little don't suddenly change their parenting style when they go back to work.

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Ducky

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Registered: 02-05-2008
Wed, 05-07-2008 - 5:12pm
Well I just remember from my junior high, high school days, the kids that did NOT have a parent at home afterschool were the ones hanging out on "cancer hill" (our name for the smokers that smoked on this hill right near our school). I'd just see teens hanging out just up to no good. I know nothing their parents would approve of if they had known. There just wasn't a rush to get home and be accountable. They'd also be the ones having people over (other latch key kids) and messing around at home while the parent wasn't there. Hooking up with boys, drinking, smoking pot and ciggies etc..
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Wed, 05-07-2008 - 5:38pm

personally, we have a nanny at home so it's never been an issue.

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