Kids home alone: diff between SAH/WOH?

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Registered: 05-27-1998
Kids home alone: diff between SAH/WOH?
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Tue, 05-06-2008 - 2:08pm

I was talking with a friend who is a FT WOHM. She said she was really dismayed that there isn't much after school child care available for middle school kids (MS here is grades 6-8) and that the school seemed to expect the kids to come home and be alone for a few hours after school.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 05-08-2008 - 12:21pm

I think somewhere in elementary school it moves from more physical care to more mental guidance with children.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 05-08-2008 - 12:22pm

Well said.


PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 05-08-2008 - 12:33pm

Well, a qualification that such statements may not be universally applicable might be useful on occasion ;-).

Seriously, though, I suspect that the U.S. is rather the exception than the norm in this regard. So in this case, it might be good to add "for those of us living in the U.S...."

Come to think about it, though, many kids in larger U.S. cities with good transportation possibilities and/or bike paths also manage to get themselves to age-appropriate activities without the parents driving them.

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Thu, 05-08-2008 - 12:46pm

I don't think anybody has

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Thu, 05-08-2008 - 12:51pm

i live in a small city with good transportation, and ime, the difference isn't just that so many kids live in suburban outposts, out of reach of activities, but that american parents (generally)

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Thu, 05-08-2008 - 1:00pm
Good kids can and do makes mistakes, too, especially when they're with their friends.
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Registered: 08-29-2002
Thu, 05-08-2008 - 1:01pm
Yes, you are absolutely right. It's sometimes hard for me to fully grasp the cultural gap as it really wasn't that way when I was a kid: we were all expected, regardless of the work status of the parents, to get ourselves to our after school activities. I notice more and more changes every time I visit the U.S..
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Registered: 05-27-1998
Thu, 05-08-2008 - 1:10pm

"i suspect that for many, the same factors that motivated the decision to sah in the first place are at work--their earnings don't or hardly

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Thu, 05-08-2008 - 1:18pm
We are choosing to buy a house in a neighborhood where Samantha will be able to get herself to and from activities in middle and high school. It's not impossible in the US.
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Registered: 05-27-1998
Thu, 05-08-2008 - 1:36pm

Lots of districts mistakenly believe there is a correlation between giving loads of hw and a high quality education, when such a connection has never been proven. Our middle school is also very high achieving but is, unfortunately, among those that give too much homework. We're not as bad as some, but I think there's too much stupid busywork.


Interestingly enough, the pressure to give homework comes from the parents who think that if their child is doing work they can see, the child must be getting a good education.


There are a few teachers who see the light, though. Last year, my daughter had a science teacher who told the kids that she did not believe in homework and only assigned a couple of long-term projects to be done outside of class. Lots of parents complained about her, even though the kids' scores on the state test are consistently among the highest.

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