Kids home alone: diff between SAH/WOH?

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Kids home alone: diff between SAH/WOH?
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Tue, 05-06-2008 - 2:08pm

I was talking with a friend who is a FT WOHM. She said she was really dismayed that there isn't much after school child care available for middle school kids (MS here is grades 6-8) and that the school seemed to expect the kids to come home and be alone for a few hours after school.

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Registered: 05-27-1998
Mon, 06-02-2008 - 9:01pm
Thanks! I'll pass your suggestion about the internet camera along to my friend who is in this position.
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Registered: 06-02-2008
Mon, 06-02-2008 - 11:41am

As a teacher of tweens in public school, I do have concerns about children this age staying at home alone. I think the operable word here is "children." While they may often seem very responsible, they still don't have the experience and knowledge to be sensitive to possible dangerous situations. I think even smart, well-trained kids need to be monitored closely --- not because you don't trust them, but because you know that simply being "alone" makes them vulnerable.


You may want to consider installing one of those good Internet cameras in your home so you can see your kids from your work computer. That way you can give them the opportunity to be alone for a while without being completely alone. It's a good baby step towards giving them independence while still giving you the peace of mind that they're okay. Plus, you can still have some control over after-school activities at home. For instance, you could say, "I want to see you at the kitchen table doing your homework from 4:30 - 5:00. When I get home we'll go over it together."


Kids who know that Mom could be watching tend to feel more secure and know they'll be held accountable for what they do. That's not a bad combination.

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Mon, 05-26-2008 - 1:50pm

It's great that your school has a program like that. Ours has some interesting after school stuff, but these activities end at 3:15, which is way too early

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Registered: 07-26-2007
Sat, 05-24-2008 - 8:24am
Oh, this is NOTHING. Wait til she brings it up next month, still trying to "clarify". And for the love of Joly Hesus, don't do anything she might decide was a lie....

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Sat, 05-24-2008 - 8:22am
If only we could believe that. History, however, does not support such a wildly improbable claim.

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Sat, 05-24-2008 - 8:18am
I know this will shock you but the other board is tame compared to this one :)

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"BTW, I hate Lifetime. Their movies will suck you in and all of a sudden you've watched 3 in a row, used every tissue in t

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Sat, 05-24-2008 - 8:01am

Prove that I *look down on wohm's*.

Maybe you're just wicked tall ;)

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"BTW, I hate Lifetime. Their movies will suck you in and all of a sudden you've watched 3 in a row, used every tissue in t

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Sat, 05-24-2008 - 7:29am

At what age did or will they start?

Dd was about 9, I think, when I started letting her stay home instead of coming to the store with me, for example. That was also the age when she started being allowed to play outside without mommy along. It evolved from there to us going out for a drink or a quick dinner nearby, after she had been put to bed. By the time she was 12 or so, she would sometimes spend either some of the afternoon or some of the evening home alone fairly regularly.

Can they have friends over, or go over to their friends homes?

Go to a friend, sure, within normal boundaries (time location etc). Have friends over, only if I have cleared it with the friend's parents.

Can they watch TV? Do you monitor usage?

Dd can watch whatever TV she wants. We do not have cable, and she is not that into TV anyway.

Can they use the computer? and the internet? If so, do you monitor usage and how so?

How do you expect them to occupy their time? Homework and...what's for fun?

Dd has never had too much trouble occupying her time. She reads, sews, draws, makes stuff etc.

Do they have chores they're expected to perform?

Yes, but not related to being home alone.

What do you do when schools out for vacation or summer?

Play it by ear.

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Sat, 05-24-2008 - 5:46am

woods makes it sound like big redwood trees with who knows what lurking in the distance.

Yes. There were never any woods or forests in America until California was discovered and populated...

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"BTW, I hate Lifetime. Their movies will suck you in and all of a sudden you've watched 3 in a row, used every tissue in t

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Fri, 05-23-2008 - 11:27pm
Well, Emily lives on in two of us ;)

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"BTW, I hate Lifetime. Their movies will suck you in and all of a sudden you've watched 3 in a row, used every tissue in t

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