# of kids=total income?

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# of kids=total income?
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Tue, 07-24-2007 - 10:26pm

How did your household income/potential income influence the number of children in your family? Did you and dh stop at a certain number of kids because you wanted to be able to provide certain things for each child?

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Registered: 07-24-2007
Fri, 07-27-2007 - 7:03pm

"What steps are you and your family taking to address the situation of racial and economic inequities in your area?"

Absolutely nothing. People move here to get away from the awful areas. We like living crime free with great schools. Don't you?

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Registered: 03-15-2007
Fri, 07-27-2007 - 7:04pm
So, according to your logic, you're a racist, right? Since PKA is a racist for the same thing?
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Registered: 07-24-2007
Fri, 07-27-2007 - 7:05pm
No, I'm not. I acknowledge that I want the best for my children. Best schools, best neighborhood. That just happens to be the neighborhood that I am in. I have the guts to admit it. I'm still waiting for these wonderful neighborhoods that no one can seem to post a link of.
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Registered: 07-24-2007
Fri, 07-27-2007 - 7:07pm
Where did anyone say that she is a racist? Please show me that post.
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Fri, 07-27-2007 - 7:11pm

Sure, I like living in an area where I don't have to think very much about crime and where there are good schools. But that doesn't mean that the area isn't rich in racial, religious, and economic diversity, and that I don't feel some need to do something to reduce the kinds of inequalities that lead to the kinds of neighborhood people want to escape.

I am having a hard time wrapping my mind around the idea that you think that PKA ought to choose to put her kids into baseball programs that don't, for whatever reason, best meet her children's needs, and yet you insulate yourself in a community where you can avoid dealing with any of these issues at all and think that that is a good thing.

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Fri, 07-27-2007 - 7:12pm
I'd like to know that too as I am being accused of calling her a racist. I have no clue what I said! She just does not like the fact that she does not have all her facts straight and someone has called her on them. She always wants links to things but she can send us links that she knows nothing about as no one else does. The dance studio she has linked us to is an audition studio only so that is not for your average child who is doing dance as an activity AND these kids are most likely living near the city as there are many classes per week. I am over an hour away and even if my child was that good, I could not take her there that often.
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Registered: 03-15-2007
Fri, 07-27-2007 - 7:12pm

I think the problem you are having is that you keep equating bad schools with minority schools. I have no problem putting my children in good minority schools. (That exist, whether or not you believe it.) I have a problem putting my children in bad schools that are underfunded, regardless of the racial make up of that school.

I don't think anyone will post a link to their local schools. It would be kind of stupid to do so. Most of the people here are the LAST people on earth I want knowing where I live.

So you can think everyone is not admitting the truth, but people are admitting plenty. It's just that noone agrees with your faulty (racist) assumption that minority schools are bad schools.




Edited 7/27/2007 7:14 pm ET by lamom2007
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Fri, 07-27-2007 - 7:13pm
What is wrong with the programs by her own home? What is wrong with the schools? Why live in an area that is cheap but not good enough for your children? Before choosing a home, you should be researching the schools and other things that will affect your children once you have them.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 07-27-2007 - 7:14pm

You have eluded to having a lot of money several times on another thread Myshka. If you're as financially well off as you lead people to believe...it is charmed IMO(not that I'd choose it but good for you). Correct me if I am wrong please."

No its not "charmed" anymore than its "lucky." Its called -- hard work. My sister, who has the same parents as me, has very little money or resources other than what they still give her. I chose to make my own "luck" and I don't call that "charmed."

"I never said that and don't agree with the statement. I do believe they should not be handed everything in life; especially not things that are an opportunity to teach them dedication, responsibility and appreciation. That is just how I feel about it. I only make my daughter grovel for Roasted Pepper, Potato and Egg Salad(her favourite)."

LOL. Well I make my kids grovel for ice cream, but anway.....I don't believe in 'handing everything in life' to children, or anyone for that matter. But I do believe in paying for their education. There is a huge difference between handing a kid "everything" -- eg. spoiling them, and paying for their college.

Good parenting means helping them to understand and value material, and hopefully more important non material things/gifts. You can be generous with your children, even a bit indulgent at times, and teach them great values. My parents did. Again, the two arent mutually exlusive.

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Registered: 09-06-2003
Fri, 07-27-2007 - 7:15pm
what?

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