# of kids=total income?

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# of kids=total income?
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Tue, 07-24-2007 - 10:26pm

How did your household income/potential income influence the number of children in your family? Did you and dh stop at a certain number of kids because you wanted to be able to provide certain things for each child?

Robin

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Fri, 07-27-2007 - 7:16pm

I think that you are forgetting...if it doesn't happen that way "by" Hazel, it doesn't happen that way anywhere!

Robin

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Fri, 07-27-2007 - 7:17pm

"You have eluded to having a lot of money several times on another thread Myshka. If you're as financially well off as you lead people to believe...it is charmed IMO(not that I'd choose it but good for you). Correct me if I am wrong please."

No its not "charmed" anymore than its "lucky." Its called -- hard work. My sister, who has the same parents as me, has very little money or resources other than what they still give her. I chose to make my own "luck" and I don't call that "charmed."

Did you not say that your dh made very good investments in the past and that is why you are both able to not work?

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Fri, 07-27-2007 - 7:18pm

67% white-non-hispanic/middle eastern/persian
19% asian or pacific islander
4% Black not of hispanic origin
7% Hispanic
3% other

There is a fair bit of religious diversity, Jews, Muslims, Hindus, Shintos, Christians (Orthodox, Catholic, Protestants, Mormon) and a few UUs.

At our bus stop, my children are the only ones with both parents born the US (Iran, Jordan, Morroco, Cuba, Japan). Up the street there are several Mexican, French, German, Chinese, Brazilian, New Zealand and Vienamese families but they have older children. The Sudanese familiy moved away. New neighbors soon as one jus tleft to spend two years in Quito- haven't met the family they rented to.

There are children from 35 different countries attending my boys' school.

It is not as diverse as I would like and there is virtually no economic diversity, but I found it extremely difficult to find a truly diverse school -when I was bored and started searching the internet. And frankly, since we bought our house before any children were born, the schools were not the main reason we chose our neighborhood- but we got lucky.

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Fri, 07-27-2007 - 7:18pm

If that neighbor is your friend and you discuss the details of your kids' activities, like most friends do, why wouldn't you know the details about Boyscouts?

Robin

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Fri, 07-27-2007 - 7:20pm
I did live there (NE)and intended to stay there. But then I fell in love. To a Virginian. Who had already purchased a house. Love won.
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Fri, 07-27-2007 - 7:20pm
Never said that. You must have missed a chunk of this debate. PKA gave me a link to an audition only school that is not your normal dance studio as she "thought" it was in my area to prove that dancing is expensive. Sure, if you need to audition and they are training you for broadway, sure it is expensive.
She then proceeds to tell me to get a laundry list of schools in my area, how much they cost for classes,etc. She will NOT get some from her area but expects me to do so. I have actually researched them online and I can not find one around me that will give me prices for the normal school year.
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Fri, 07-27-2007 - 7:22pm
Why would I be discussing how much she pays? Why would that be of any interest to me, especially if I did not have a child who would be in that activity?
She can tell me all this but can not send me a link to the school they used.
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Fri, 07-27-2007 - 7:22pm

"My sister, who has the same parents as me, has very little money or resources other than what they still give her."

So your parents still support your sister. Do you think(honestly) that she has been used to be supported and having someone rescue her financially her whole life which has contributed to her current inability to support herself?

I am not assuming so as I don't know the details of her situation; but could it be?

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Fri, 07-27-2007 - 7:22pm

I don't know why the baseball programs in her own community don't meet the kids' needs, she did say something about overall quality, coaching philosophy, and organization. And she didn't say anything at all about anything being "wrong" with the schools in her area, just that the private school she sends her kids to is better. And I know that she was considering sending one to public middle school next year, so the schools there cannot be all that bad.

Do you think that the people who choose to send their kids to places like Andover, Choate, the Cate School, places like that, come from communities with really poor public schools?

I live in an area that's fairly inexpensive but has a lot of very good programs for children. My kids are involved in basketball, baseball, and community music programs. But no area has everything. The nearest ice rink, for instance, is thirty miles away, so kids that want to play ice hockey have a way to travel. The city with the nice ice rink has no youth symphony, so qualified kids drive or are driven here. It's no biggie. And it has nothing to do with race.

People choose their homes for a variety of reasons. There is nothing wrong with choosing a home in an area where the school doesn't meet your needs if there are other schools available within a reasonable distance.

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Fri, 07-27-2007 - 7:26pm

"Do you think that the people who choose to send their kids to places like Andover, Choate, the Cate School, places like that, come from communities with really poor public schools?"

I have absolute no clue of these schools so I can answer that.

"But no area has everything."

Within how much of a distance? I consider my area to have alot.

"People choose their homes for a variety of reasons. There is nothing wrong with choosing a home in an area where the school doesn't meet your needs if there are other schools available within a reasonable distance."

I know that people in my area are very concerned with the schools and DO buy their homes in the better school districts.

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