Ladies...Enough Already!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Ladies...Enough Already!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
| Mon, 10-04-2004 - 2:10pm |
Can we please voluntarily end this thread from grlimilakinskeeper, or whatever her screen name is...it's getting too personal, and not very productive.
Kat

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"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
If he loses visitation because of smoking, you will have to deal with 2 sources of some very serious anger they will have. 1)anger at him for smoking and thereby losing visitation and 2) anger at you for putting a condition on his visitation that you knew he couldn't follow. The fallout of this anger may make you wish you had something as easy to deal with as second-hand smoke.
Before you say, "Parents shouldn't make decisions based on what will make their kids not angry", I'm not talking about garden-variety "I'm angry you won't buy me a new X-Box" anger. This would be at the more fundamental, damaging level. The kind of anger that gets expressed by self-damaging behaviours and a particularly difficult adulthood because that anger will be carried to their adult relationships.
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
The situation will be explained to the girls if it comes down to it. They'll be told the court told daddy not to smoke around them and he did it anyway. Somehow, I doubt he'll show the court the same contempt he's shown me. I don't think he's going to be able to afford to smoke after we're divorced if he doesn't get custody and child support and I really don't think he can.
He's going to have some hard choices here. Smoking or his kids. Smoking and drinking or retirement some day. He also has to find medical insurance. I'm sure they'll call his heart condition a pre existing condition so he'll have about a $300/month prescription bill on top of insurance premiums. Money may very well be tight enough for him that he has to quit smoking.
I'm trying to protect my kids from their father because he doesn't care enough to protect them himself. Smoking around kids is WRONG. PERIOD. Good parents don't do it. If he chooses cigarettes over his girls, he's a sad excuse for a human being.
Yes, I'm trying to limit their exposure to a smoker. Any good parent would.
Edited 10/9/2004 6:54 pm ET ET by grimalkinskeeper
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