Ladies...Enough Already!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Ladies...Enough Already!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Mon, 10-04-2004 - 2:10pm
Can we please voluntarily end this thread from grlimilakinskeeper, or whatever her screen name is...it's getting too personal, and not very productive.

Kat

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Sat, 10-09-2004 - 11:36pm
interesting. I just took andrew to the psychologist to do a "quick check" -- in fact it was something his dad insisted on -- and i humored him. the psychologist that he's doing just fine with the separation and impending divorce. He did suggest that jenna would need someone to talk to as she's so incredibly verbal -- but she's a worrier and a caretaker -- and he wants to make sure that she has a safe outlet for her feelings. I could only imagine how distraught she would be if she thought i was trying to keep her from her dad OR that her dad didn't want to see her (for whatever reason, that's how kids interpret things).

eileen

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Sat, 10-09-2004 - 11:41pm
we do. he's 3 miles away right over the town line. want to try again?

did i mention that he stopped by (he had to drop off the dealer plate for the van) to say hi to them tonight -- even though it's my weekend? oh, and he wanted to make sure it was okay if he came to jenna's soccer game tomorrow -- much the same way that i checked with him before i took her to her game last week (when it was his weekend). Oh, and did i mention that on thursday both kids had games/practice at 5:45 in different towns -- even though it was HIS visitation night i helped him by taking jenna to soccer and giving up some of MY personal time.

yes, he's important and we've proved it over and over and over as we BOTH put our children FIRST as we're going through all this custody stuff.

are you tired of tilting at windmills yet?

eileen

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Sun, 10-10-2004 - 12:41am

Oh, please. Get over yourself. No one said your kids were mental cases. What they said was that your children could benefit from having a professional to talk to during a very stressful time.


As for your own personal experience with divorce, it was exactly that. Your children are not you. Their situation is not the same one you were in.




Edited 10/10/2004 12:42 am ET ET by taylormomma
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Sun, 10-10-2004 - 4:27am
Oh. Where to start...

Dj

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Sun, 10-10-2004 - 4:31am
So since you are sure he'll never agree to it, you fully admit that you want to keep him away from his children and limit access as much as possible.

What if he does agree to it? What will you do then? How will you prove him unfit to co-parent?



dj

Dj

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Sun, 10-10-2004 - 4:34am
Its been pretty well documented that even the most amicable divorces cause emotional issues for children. The extent of those depend on just how much the parents put the children first.

And again with the drama. Who said your kids were mental cases? I said you should consult a psychologist for their benefit and discuss what would TRULY be in their best interests. Again, they could probably clarify for you just what removal of their father will do to them. Or are you afraid of what they might say?

dj

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Sun, 10-10-2004 - 9:26am

Why didn't you just flat out tell the man a long time ago,

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Sun, 10-10-2004 - 9:29am

The risk has always been there.

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Sun, 10-10-2004 - 10:15am
Because, back then, that wouldn't have helped things. Then he would have just been free to smoke all he wanted during his half of the custody arrangement. Now, it's different. There have been multiple court rulings against smoking parents. I have the court on my side now. Which is why I can now do something about it.
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Sun, 10-10-2004 - 10:16am
Going through emotional trauma doesn't mean you need a shrink.

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