Ladies...Enough Already!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Ladies...Enough Already!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
| Mon, 10-04-2004 - 2:10pm |
Can we please voluntarily end this thread from grlimilakinskeeper, or whatever her screen name is...it's getting too personal, and not very productive.
Kat

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Counseling and psychiatrists and psychology aren't about diagnosis, prognosis and treatments. Especially for children.
It's about having a open forum to *talk*. It's about having the freedom to simply say what you feel, say what you want, without fear of repercussion. It's about having someone ask the right questions so that you know how to express what you feel. Most success in counseling, etc comes from simply recognizing your own feelings and dealing with them. The success stories I've seen and witnessed are all due to the *patient* being the one that recognizes his/her own problems and finds their own solutions. The "shrink" is merely there as a catalyst, a mediator, a facilitator.
Kids often don't feel free saying what they really feel to mom and dad. Especially in situations where it might hurt mom or dad's feelings. And often just expressing those feelings does a whole host of good. Bottling those things up can be so harmful.
One by far does not need to be mentally ill to benefit from some counseling.
And it doesn't have to be by a "shrink". It can be a medical doctor. A clergyman. A teacher. A friend. The
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
Because it is just ONE of MANY things that they take into consideration when considering who will be the best parent for custody.
I never said I wanted the court to tell him to quit. I said I wanted them to tell him to not smoke around the kids.
Then you aren't following my post very well and haven't done your research.
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
I don't remember what went on in those sessions but I remember feeling like THIS IS REALLY WRONG. I went because my parents wanted me to. I'm glad that kick didn't last long for dad. He tended to flit to the flavor of the week. He made me read "I'm ok, You're ok" when I was about 12 and a host of other self help books along the way, lol. In between seeing jousting matches on his front lawn that is, lol. Funny how that counselor never thought to explain my fathers illness to me. THAT is what bothered me as a child enough to need someone to talk to about it!!! (taboo subject with the adults in my life because they didn't understand it and there was such a stigma on things like this). Come to think of it, none of the counselors I ever saw did. They just ASSumed any issues I had stemmed from my parents divorce. A lot they know.
I can't say the divorce didn't influence me but that was far more positive than negative. I believe in being self sufficient and in trying to work things out to the point I stayed far longer than I should have so I'll leave knowing I did all I could and then some. I don't have a fairy tale view on life like so many of my friends did. I know I make my own way and don't need someone else to do it for me. I also don't look for my happiness in anyone but myself. It definitely colored my life and there were things to work through but it wasn't that difficult a thing to do. My father's illness was another issue. He died before I came to terms with that. Which is sad because I grew up believing he didn't care when he really did. Some of the things he did were remarkable considering what he was dealing with on a daily basis. Too bad that counselor didn't have enough sense to explain bi-polarism to me. THAT would have helped.
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