Ladies...Enough Already!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Ladies...Enough Already!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
| Mon, 10-04-2004 - 2:10pm |
Can we please voluntarily end this thread from grlimilakinskeeper, or whatever her screen name is...it's getting too personal, and not very productive.
Kat

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Don't worry about my kids. They'll have people to talk to. I just don't see any use for a psychiatrist at this point in time.
also, with our insurance it only costs me $15 per session out of pocket. Oh, and i don't think they'd need a psychiatrist -- that would probably be overkill.
eileen
BTW, I agree that they don't need to see a psychiatrist. Somebody along the lines of a grief counselor would be more appropriate (there is probably a sub-specialty just for kids whose parents are divorcing). The goal is not to fix a problem. The goal is for them to be able to vent to somebody about their feelings on the divorce. Uncles are good. However, could they fully, freely vent to your brothers without the worry that any of it might get back to you or their dad? Because they need somebody to who will patiently bear the venting wihout ever saying "watch what you say about my sister!".
eileen
1. Who said anythng about a psychiatrist? That you seem to think all therapy is interchangeable illustrates how little you know about the subject. Your children don't need a psychiatrist, they need a licensed family therapist (who will probably be a licensed clinical psychologist, but doesn't need to be), preferably one specializing in children and divorce.
2. You don't have to be rich. Most insurance covers outpatient therapy.
3. The point of therapy in this situation is to prevent issues. Chances are, you won't have a clue if your children are having issues, especially given their ages. Your children are at the age when divorce will hit them the hardest. By the time they are "having problems" the damage will already be done.
4. Absolutely I would send my children to the doctor before they become ill, especially if they were exposed to an environment which could result in a chronic condition later on. I'd want them checked out, monitored, and given any preventative treatment available.
5. You get more use out of your best friend, but we aren't talking about you here. A point which continually escapes you.
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
When you act, you are being RE-active if you are acting in response to a situation or circumstance which has occurred.
When you act, you are being OVER-RE-active, when you RE-act to a perceived threat of situation or circumstance which doesn't actually ocurr.
Over-re-acting is not a great mode in which to operate, and its not a consequence free mode. It can create issues and circumstances where none were going to be there otherwise.
Its well worth avoiding. The line between pro-active, and over-re-active is there, and its not ambiguous, but its not generally particularily obvious. What I read leads me to believe that a good many posters aren't even aware that it exists.
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