Ladies...Enough Already!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Ladies...Enough Already!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Mon, 10-04-2004 - 2:10pm
Can we please voluntarily end this thread from grlimilakinskeeper, or whatever her screen name is...it's getting too personal, and not very productive.

Kat

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Wed, 10-13-2004 - 4:36pm
That doesnt even make sense. Obviously you have issues from your parents divorce-why else did you stay in an unhappy marriage so long, because you DIDNT want your children to have to deal with the ramifications of divorce????

And you do realize there is a fairly large difference between a psychiatrist, a psychologist and a family counselor/therapist.

We've had really good luck with family therapists. Psychiatrists, imo, should be reserved for those who ARE mentally ill and need medication. Its a different practice and approach all the way around. Which, you might figure out if you had any working knowledge of it.

dj

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"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Wed, 10-13-2004 - 4:49pm
Nobody has suggested a psychiatrist. We have suggested a COUNSELOR. Someone to talk to , vent to. NOT to diagnose a problem. A counseling and psychiatry are two different, barely even related fields. If you can stop thinking of counselors as psychiatrists (they aren't at all), then you could maybe see some wisdom in this. They have as little to do with each other as a plumber and an auto mechanic.
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Wed, 10-13-2004 - 4:51pm
NOBODY has suggested psychiatric help. A counselor and a psychiatrist are not remotely similar. A counselor would be helpgful, a psychiatrist would not. It seems like a big problem here is that you keep hearing "psychiatrist" when people have actually said "counseling".
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Wed, 10-13-2004 - 4:55pm
See! You just did it again. You said "psychiatrist" when the post you were replying to said "counseling and therapy". NOBODY has suggested a psychiatrist. Why do you keep bringing them up every time somebody mentions "therapy"? It's like refusing to go to the doctor for a vaccination because you think surgery is uneccesary. Seriously! NOBODY but you has brought up psychiatrists.
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Wed, 10-13-2004 - 5:00pm
You know, as a young person, when I had things that were bothering me, I liked most to talk to my friends. Young as they were. Occassionally another adult. I know it pissed my parents off. My kids will probably do the same thing. But, I don't recall ever needing someone to "talk to". I still don't find myself in that position. Finding someone to "talk with", now there is another thing. But that is something that one can expect to find amongst ones existing human life relationships, for the most part, I would think. If that doesn't seem to be doing the trick...then sure...find help. But why assume a childs world won't provide her with what she needs in the first place - someone to talk with?
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Wed, 10-13-2004 - 7:10pm
I remember my first experience with a psychologist/counselor. I was 19, had broken up with a boyfriend and had adjustment issues about transferring to my new school. I called my mom up crying. After a while, she said "honey, i love you, but i don't know how to help you.I'm here to listen to you, but i think you need someone who can help you work through these things". Pretty astute for a woman who had never been in any type of therapy ever.

As for my daughter, i think the kinds of things she's dealing with regarding the divorce are major kinds of things - and no, i don't think she'd talk about all the ins and outs of it to me or her dad or her aunts on any regular basis -- she'd be too worried about saying anything that would upset anyone (psychologist said that she's a caretaker -- which she is). Why assume that she can handle all of these feelings all on her own? YOU don't know MY child. I KNOW her. I'm her MOM. I KNOW what she needs.

eileen

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Wed, 10-13-2004 - 7:14pm
well, i'm worth MORE than only half my salt, LOL, however having been dealing with a special needs child for 10+ years and now the divorce, I'll err on the side of her sitting down and getting lots of her emotions out there.

again, knowing my kids, i find it much more responsible and beneficial to be PROACTIVE rather than REACTIVE. but that's just us.

eileen

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Wed, 10-13-2004 - 8:50pm
ROTFLMAO. Do you really expect me to use someone with LESS training, lol. Trust me. The psychiatrists are bad enouhg. I'm not touching anyone who couldn't even get through school, lol.
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Wed, 10-13-2004 - 8:51pm
Hmm? I don't think psychiartrists know what they're doing. Why do you supposed I'd think someone with LESS in the way of training does?????

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Wed, 10-13-2004 - 8:52pm
roflol....THAT sounds even dumber than i could even begin to imagine. you know what? why don't you just start a thread that says NO MATTER what anyone else says, "i'm not listening to you, i can't hear you....my fingers are in my ears...la...la...la...la...la...i can't hear you.........."

really, it would save EVERYONE so much time. Note to self: No good deed goes unpunished.

Eileen

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