Ladies...Enough Already!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Ladies...Enough Already!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
| Mon, 10-04-2004 - 2:10pm |
Can we please voluntarily end this thread from grlimilakinskeeper, or whatever her screen name is...it's getting too personal, and not very productive.
Kat

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I'll give my girls the benefit of a doubt first and see how they handle things talking to mom.
Family therapists most certainly have 'gotten through school'. . .it's just a different TYPE of school.
But your objections to the suggestion of counseling hasn't been based on your knowledge of your kids (at least not in this debate). . .it's been based on your distrust of therapists, psychologists, and psychiatrists. . .your lack of knowledge about the mental health field. . .and your past experiences-- probably 10+ years ago.
If you say that in your view, your kids wouldn't do well in counseling due to their temperament (and then explained what you meant by that), then I could respect that.
All of that came as a shock to me as we moved when I was 5 and I don't recall anyone ever treating me differently before the move. I remember we were poor and doing without but I don't remember anyone being mean until we moved. I didn't know what to think of any of this.
My parents divorce was really just a fact of life for me. I knew dad was sick and I knew he could be scary sometimes. I knew my parents didn't live together. I was too ego centric to give it much thought beyond that until I found myself unable to play with the other kids because my mother was a divorcee (a divorcee with an illigitmate child none the less).
I admit I often wished my step father were my father. I really do love him but it had more to do with the fact that his daughters weren't made fun of like I was and they could play with whoever they wanted. At least it seemed that way to me. I grew up feeling that his children were treated totally different from my brother and I, which is why I'm REALLY against remarriage. My kids won't be step kids. At least not by my doing.
I have bad feelings about the divorce but they stem from the times in which my mother was divorced and the stigma that was attached to my brother and I not from the divorce itself. I didn't know the reasons for the divorce until I was much older and then only because a shrink thought I should be told that my father beat my mother to a bloody pulp. Gee, that helped, lol.
I don't like divorce because I didn't like the way I was treated as a child of divorce.
My parents divorced when I was 4. I never heard of anyone being treated badly because their parents were divorced, most of my friends were children of divorce. I dont know of any of them being treated badly by others because their parents divorced. And I am only what, 4-5 years younger than you? Thats quite odd, that divorce in your demographic was considered so highly unusual that parents actually *prevented* their children from playing with you. Just doesnt seem to add up somehow, and sounds strikingly like the story of the sahms in the park...
Like I said, issues, lots of them. And a very very skewed view. The more info you provide about your personal life, the more those issues come to light.
dj
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
It suprises me that a supposedly educated person could have such a narrow view.
dj
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
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