Ladies...Enough Already!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Ladies...Enough Already!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
| Mon, 10-04-2004 - 2:10pm |
Can we please voluntarily end this thread from grlimilakinskeeper, or whatever her screen name is...it's getting too personal, and not very productive.
Kat

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But yes, all custody arrangements will necessarily focus on the kids, even if in a less pressured way. This is one of the inevitable things that many kids blame themselves for.
While some children may be selfish, they are
Teacher "Ok, what happend here?"
Kid 1 "Teacher teacher, it was MY fault, honestly it was!"
Kid 2 "NO WAY. It was MY fault. I started it. ASK HIM over there!!!!"
Teacher "Ok you two. We're going to the principals office. We'll find out who really deserves blame here. And if one of you turns out to be entirely not at fault and did not in anyway cause this incident...thats it...detention for a week. So for both your sakes, I suggest you stick entirely to the truth and do not try to hog blame"
Virgo
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/children_divorce.htm
http://www.aap.org/mrt/div.htm
http://www.ivillage.co.uk/parenting/family/steppar/articles/0,13843,186643_187395,00.html
http://www.askdrsears.com/html/10/T110240.asp
If you notice, every ONE of those articles clearly states that self blame is a big issue for children in divorce situations. And those were just the first few articles I pulled. You can do a search and find at least 20 more. So yes, educate yourself. Rather than just blathering about things you obviously dont have a lot of information or knowledge about, try reading.
dj
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
A child of an overly critical parent will self criticize, echoing their parents' sentiments. A child of a pushy parent will blame themselves for not being able to live up to the dreams their parents have for them (kids of wannabe stage mothers or dads who want a sports star). And children of divorce will often wonder what they did to make it so hard for the parents to live together. This is especially likely if the kids hear themselves referenced during fights.
This is exclusively between parents and children. That is why you can't come up with any school equivalents. There aren't any. Hope that clears it up.
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
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