The little lady mentality
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|Mon, 07-28-2003 - 9:17pm|
The best aunt in the world (mine) retired early, had her dream home (a log home) built on a beautiful lake near a national forest and got married - in that order. She and her husband are YOUNG retirees, she has no children and he has adult children from a previous marriage. She went from living 45 minutes away, to over 6 hours. Between school, work, activities, etc.. we don't get down there as often as I would like to, and when we do it is not for as long of a visit as I, or my children, would like. She invited dd and a friend of dd's choosing to visit for one week, provided I could supply transportation one way. She planned out a whole week of hiking, crafts (she takes a lot of art classes herself and is excited to teach dd), hanging out on the lake.. I coordinated dd and friend's schedule, but couldn't get everyone down there together. So I have just returned from driving on my own.
This seems to be quite the feat in our small circle. Several of dh's co-workers, my friends and their husbands and even the father of dd's girlfriend commented on my driving alone, as if it some enormous task that a female shouldn't undertake on her own. I have girlfriends that will not drive the expressways or in the city (Chicago). One man was amazed that my dh "let" me go and others couldn't believe that I didn't mind doing it alone. This sentiment crossed age and SES lines. The only people that didn't bat an eye were my FIL (even though his wife does not drive on an expressway), my dad and dh.
What does this say - if anything - about women's roles in the family? Is the fear because of the threat of danger to a woman traveling alone (although the cops in the family were the least worried about this) or is it somehow masculine to do a road trip like that? Do we still believe that women can't drive, can't read maps, don't have a sense of direction?