Long commmute can take a toll on relationsip

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Long commmute can take a toll on relationsip
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Mon, 06-13-2011 - 7:40pm

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Registered: 04-16-2010
I didn't read your story, but my dh has a long commute. On a good day it's an hour, but on a bad day.... I don't even want to talk about it, lol. The fact that dh also works long hours actually makes the commute better. When he was working an 8 or 9 hour day, his commute time doubled, b/c he was in heavy traffic both directions. It meant a long day, five or six days a week. Now, dh works 12+ hours a day, he goes in early, and get off late, so his commute is mostly *good* (an hour each way). He only works four days a week, so in the long run, it works out much better for us.

We simply could not afford to live in the same city that dh works...although with fuel prices what they are right now, we're rethinking it!

My commute is about three minutes. It take longer for me to get the doors unlocked, and my bag in the trunk, than it does for me to drive, lol. If the weather ever improves, I'll be walking again (although I don't like to carry the lap top..may have to get a backpack for the summer).
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Mon, 06-13-2011 - 10:38pm

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Registered: 07-17-2007

I'm not sure it is the long commute that makes the differnce.

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Registered: 01-15-2006

i don't think commute time matters in the big picture.

 

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Registered: 04-16-2010
The kids' activities don't change based on how far away dh works, but his availability to be involved said activities does, as does meal time, whether we eat early or late, or if dh eats with us, or not.....You may not consider those things to be about "lifestyle" but I do.
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Registered: 04-16-2010
Total time away from the house is a biggie. We've found, that 14+ hours a day isn't any worse than 12, lol. But, the longer days, in dh's line of work, means fewer work days, which in the long run, reduces commute time (by 3 or so hours a week) and increases the total number of hours spent with the family.
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Registered: 07-17-2007

We have found that soehwere between 11 and twelve hours away + is our breaking point.

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Registered: 01-15-2006

DH's work schedule/hours determine his availability more than his commute thus our lifestyle hasn't really changed.

 

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Registered: 01-15-2006

DH works on average 50-ish hours a week not counting a saturday he might throw in or commute.

 

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