Long hrs in preschool/daycare harmful

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Long hrs in preschool/daycare harmful
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Sun, 03-19-2006 - 3:09pm

http://www.signonsandiego.com/uniontrib/20051101/news_1n1earlyed.html

Very interesting. Particularly the difference in the middle to upper income kids vs low income.

"I personally feel children need the nurture of their parents and the home," she said. "Those early years, that's when they are bonding to their family. That nurturing, only the family can give that."

I tend to agree.

MM, WOHM to B&E, 7.24.03

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Thu, 03-23-2006 - 3:25pm

"However, I tend to agree with the studies that are showing that extended time in such a prgram is not only not beneficial, but possibly negative."

I tend to agree with such studies as well.

Why would on earth would the results of such studies be published, if not to get the word out?

"I dont see the point in adding those things on top of a core program unless needed by the parent to compensate for their absence."

Precisely!

"I would never chose an 8 hour program with nap/play over a 4 hour program, unless I had to be away from the kids for 8 hours due to my own schedule."

Nor would I.

In fact, the only reason I would chose such a program would be in the event that I had no other choice.

Why would I want to potentially risk negatives if I didnt have to?"

Indeed. I couldn't agree more.

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Thu, 03-23-2006 - 3:26pm
Actually, I do think, most of the time, that the children's needs should trump the needs of the adults in the family. And certainly children's needs should trump adults wants. In most cases, adults are in a better position for delayed gratitification; children's needs tend to be more immediate and urgent. If my child and I both NEED to go to the bathroom and we're out in public, it's a good bet that we'll both be happier ten minutes later if he goes first. If my child and my husband are both hungry and I only have one set of snacks in the car, unless husband is driving and suffering from low blood sugar chances are I will feed the kid first and instruct DH to pull over at the nearest C-store for a re-stock. Problems creep into families when needs and wants aren't clearly distinguished. I don't think it's good for a child to have his/her needs not met; nor is it good for a child to have all his/her wants met, and certainly not good to have his/her wants ALWAYS or NEVER placed at the top of a family's priority list.
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Thu, 03-23-2006 - 3:27pm
Pickup games are gone forever? I guess so. I find it heartbreaking that literally everything that kids do is micromanaged by adults these days. I miss the good old days before endless afterschool activities when kids could play sports in their own neighborhood without some adult horning in to make sure everything was fair, well organized and well supervised. I think today's kids are supervised far too much and have far too little unscheduled free time when adults just leave them alone and they get to play their own games without being on an official team. It did not used to be a parent's job to make sure their kids were involved in sports. It used to be a kid's job- one that could be accomplished by going outside with a ball and seeing who wanted to play. Things have taken a turn for the worse but I see no way to undo it now.
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Registered: 01-13-2006
Thu, 03-23-2006 - 3:29pm

"What difference does it make whether it's a preschool or preschool/dc combo?"

Preschool/dc combo programs tend to be longer than strictly preschool programs.

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Thu, 03-23-2006 - 3:32pm

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Here in New England we don't have fall break, only Christmas (Holiday) break, winter break in Feb., and spring break in April. The schedule was designed around work schedules of parents in agriculture, primarily. It doesn't work particularly well for parents in other sectors. Traditionally, only 180 days or so were provided on the theory that it was a public expense and some kind of limit had to be applied. But it hasn't changed in well over a hundred years. It's starting to now, though. People are facing the fact that more school is needed.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 03-23-2006 - 3:38pm

When your child works on her origami, her fiction writing, looking in her telescope, she's PLAYING! I can't fathom why you call the ordinary activities that children do at home to be "homeschooling". Unless you are hovering over her while she does them. I hope you aren't. Since butting in to your child's playtime just so you can feel better about re-labeling it "homeschooling" is developmentally inappropriate.

No other parents tell their kids they can't do the laundry list of fun activities you gave. You are just the only parent arrogant enough to label these activities "homeschooling" rather than a kid relaxing after school with things SHE thinks are fun.

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Thu, 03-23-2006 - 3:41pm

I agree and I remember when school didn't start until after Labor Day in my area, now it's the middle of August.


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Registered: 09-04-1997
Thu, 03-23-2006 - 3:41pm
Actually, my kids play football or roller hockey or their own invented version of Capture the Flag at the end of the street with the neighborhood kids for several hours almost every weekend day, even in winter, unless it's raining or snowing. But they have benefitted by playing league basketball and baseball as well.
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Registered: 11-03-2005
Thu, 03-23-2006 - 3:42pm
Hey. I must homeschool. I gave my kids a video lesson, along with self-commentary, on the oil and gas and plumbing industries last night ... courtesy of Mike Rowe and the Discovery Channel.
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Registered: 09-04-1997
Thu, 03-23-2006 - 3:44pm
I think a whole lot of people have difficulty assigning any agency to their children, especially if their own identity is tied up in what a child does in his or her free time.

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