Making the best of it all!!!

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Making the best of it all!!!
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Thu, 02-14-2008 - 10:29am

When I read some of the post on this board isn't the whole SAH vs. WOH all about making the best of the situation at hand?


I realized today that my life is good!!

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 02-18-2008 - 9:57pm

think there is value in many many many aspects of our society that have not one thing to do with our GNP, ecnomics, jobs etc...

"If gay Americans are not allowed to get married and have all the benefits that American citizens are entitled to by the Bill of Rights, they should get one hell of a tax break. That is my opinion,"

- Jeane "Dear Abby" Phillips, in an interview with Lisa Leff.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 03-12-2005
Tue, 02-19-2008 - 6:13am

I wonder why it is that at the end of life no one ever says..."I wish I had worked more." Most people tend to have regrets about relationships and the lack of time spent on them. Sah with my children affords more time for those relationships. That to us is worth more than any money I can earn.


Disclaimer: I am not saying wohms don't have time for developing strong relationships with their children.

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Tue, 02-19-2008 - 6:16am
"Is life about winning..." If you think that is all that life is about, I can see why you place so much more emphasis on external validation than many.
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Tue, 02-19-2008 - 6:17am
Here..here.
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Tue, 02-19-2008 - 8:08am

"I wonder why it is that at the end of life no one ever says..."I wish I had worked more."

I hear people say this all the time and wonder where it comes from. I have known several people in their later years that had career regrets. They may not have used the words "I wish I had worked more", but the words they used were comparable. "I wish I had gone to college", "I wish I had pursued my dreams of (insert career)" "I wish I had been more successful". A few regretted the lack of money because of what it could have bought them--college for their kids, earlier retirement for themselves and their spouse so they could really enjoy their golden years, better health care. I have known several that realized in their later years the other value a career or vocation would have added to their lives (a sense of accomplishment for achieving dreams they had established in their youth.)

I think it is never a waste to pursue your dreams. If you are looking at working simply as showing up to earn money for 40+ hours a week, then there may not be many people who regret not doing that more than they did. But if you look at working as engaging in an occupation or career that provided personal fulfillment, I think the thought that no one would regret not doing that is a misconception.

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Tue, 02-19-2008 - 8:28am
I am not talking about later years. I am talking about when someone is dying.The truth of the matter is when many are lying on their death beds, career and money earned isn't likely to be the focus;relationships and time spent with loved ones is.
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Tue, 02-19-2008 - 8:40am

i agree....sort of ot but i remember being a kid and observing mom and dad read the obits inthe sunday papaer.

 

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Wed, 02-20-2008 - 10:48am

At the end of her life, my mother said she wished she'd gone ahead and bought a Jaguar. She also said she wished she'd done a few other things, including having a career.


It's more complex than you make it out to be.

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Wed, 02-20-2008 - 10:54am

I think you're not seeing the point we were making -- that viewing life soley as a competition for success power money status what EVER

 

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Wed, 02-20-2008 - 11:03am

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