Marissa Meyer has an easy baby, is there anything wrong with that?
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|Fri, 11-30-2012 - 1:57pm|
The reason I'm asking this is because she was criticized in this blog piece from the Huffington Post when she made the statement that having a baby was much easier than she was told it would be. The author is upset because she feels that it makes other mothers feel bad about themselves because her baby is "easy":
And we are rooting for you. Truly. Working mothers everywhere understand that you're breaking ceilings as the first to give birth while heading a Fortune 500 company. We want you to prove that pregnancy and childbirth are not incompatible with, ya know, thought.
But we admit to mixed feelings.
Putting "baby" and "easy" in the same sentence turns you into one of those mothers we don't like very much. When you do, it makes us feel (more) inadequate; starts us wondering (again) what we are doing wrong.
I will admit, I had easy babies (don't shoot me)! I get strange reactions when I tell people that my twins were the easiest of all 4 of my boys. They slept through the night around 6-7 weeks, never had to spend an all nighter with one of them up sick. Even with double ear infections they would sleep all night. Even if they hadn't, I still was working full time and had to have all 3 boys into the sitter so I could be to work by 8am, showered, dressed and ready to work. I didn't really have a choice in the matter, it was just the way it was. I managed, wasn't always pleasant, but we got through it. I don't feel like I'm supermom, I know I made tons of mistakes, but we all survived.
I have to say I agree with some of the comments that the author sounds really bitter. Reading through the comments, the phrase "mommy martyrdom" also struck a chord with me, do you think women make it harder than it has to be for themselves? Do we set the bar so high that anything less than perfection makes us feel like a failure?