Maternity Leave?

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Maternity Leave?
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Thu, 12-29-2011 - 11:21am

What do you think is the optimum time for both moms and babies to be on maternity leave?

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Registered: 01-21-2011
Mon, 01-02-2012 - 11:29pm

It does definitely create a tough situation for most working moms in the states. I was off about 4 months with my first and then 15 months with my second. I enjoyed the 15 months, but they were hugely stressful for budget reasons as well.

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Registered: 05-28-2011
Mon, 01-02-2012 - 12:41pm
Here in the USA parenting is seen as not very important. Bosses dont care about parenting and mother child bonding. There are win win situations sich as daycare on the premises for the mom or a longer maternity leave. A six week leave is idiotic.
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Registered: 03-21-2010
Sun, 01-01-2012 - 1:03am
I'm from Canada and for about the last 12 years we have had 1 year of paid maternity leave (as long as you worked for about 6 months prior to taking the leave). Prior to that it was 6 months paid leave. The benefits are paid by the government and are equal to about 50% of your regular salary up to a max of around $25K per year and your job is guaranteed to be there for you when you return. My son is now 7 months and I can't imagine if I had to go back to work when he was only a few months old. How exhausting to be back to work and still waking up to do night feedings (at least I was when my ds was just a few months old).
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Sat, 12-31-2011 - 1:46pm

i think one is also that age when parents think about more kids or if they're done having kids too, many moms who SAH for that first year IME got pg again which put off returning to a job longer. but i do think there are advantages in a european system that saves a job for a year so mom can stay home with her child.

 

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Sat, 12-31-2011 - 1:19pm

yea, it didn't really say what "bonding" meant or what that looked like.

 

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Sat, 12-31-2011 - 12:43pm
Exactly.
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Sat, 12-31-2011 - 11:37am

Yes, I agree. Having watched the process in both countries many times, it seems clear to me that the Danish way is gentler and much less stressful for everyone involved.

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Registered: 11-14-2011
Sat, 12-31-2011 - 11:31am
I think that you just hit a key factor.

"he told me that it helped him get used to being a father and to caring for his kids in practical ways."

Parenting is a life-changing event. Having time to transition, and learn the basics help parents feel more confident, and my guess, more "bonded" to their kids.
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Sat, 12-31-2011 - 10:43am
I think more American women would work when their kids were under 5 if they were able to stay home the first year and then have a real good daycare alternative when their maternity leave was up. Working with an under 12mo. is awful, imo. And I don't really think that kids truly benefit from being in a group surrounding until they are about a year old anyway. That's when they start moving around and noticing all the other little people around them.
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Sat, 12-31-2011 - 10:39am
With our #1 DD, DH and I both WOHFT. He had no leave, I had 6 weeks. With DD #2, I had 7 weeks leave and he became a SAHD. Very different experiences, but I would never say he is more or less "bonded" (whatever that means) with one more than the other or than me. We both have very good relationships with both of our DD's, even though they are different. That has everything to do with all of our personality types, attitudes and beliefs and nothing to do with our work statuses.

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