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|Fri, 07-13-2007 - 3:12pm|
I am new around here, but this is an issue that I spend quite a bit of time thinking about. I am getting married next year, so I do not at this time have children. We are going to try to get pregnant almost immediately after we are married due to my fiance's age and some other factors.
With that said this subject is so interesting to me. My mother and most of her friends all worked while raising their children. Throught their divorces, parents aging, children with drug problems, all of the crazy stuff of life, they worked. Now interestingly, my mother had one husband (my father) walk out on her, and her second husband died unexpectedly. She was very careful to instill the idea of "men are unreliable, do not be dependant on a man" etc etc.
Some of the women I grew up with have already had children, each of them is a SAHM! I grew up with these women, they all had career and educational goals. They all met at least the educational goals they had set for themselves, but most made the decision to leave their jobs and take care of their children at home.
As for myself, My fiance has told me that if I wish to work I can, and if I want to stay home I can do that too. He said it is totally my decision. My biggest problem with staying home is not giving up anything in terms of career, it's fear. Fear that he will get bored and leave me, fear that he will lose his job and we will be destitute, fear he will die in a terrible accident and leave me unemployed with children. This is just the short list. BUT and this is a big but, I am leaning toward staying home.
Do you think society has shifted in such a way that we as women feel competitive as mothers? As in, the SAHM's think they are superior to the WOHM's and vice versa.
Why is that happening?
And why do you think that my generation is opting to stay home, when our mothers opted, no demanded, to work?
Like I said from a sociological perspective, I think it's really interesting.
Sorry this was long...