Men are inept?

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Registered: 02-07-2009
Men are inept?
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Sun, 02-22-2009 - 6:32pm

Not sure how to make this a debate subject so I will just ramble along and see where it leads us.

One of my major per peeves: The idea that mean are inept idiots who don't know what they are doing without us woman folk to guild them.

I see it from time to time on various forums, ladies complaining that their DH's do every thing wrong (uh, no they just do things differently from how you may have done it).

Do you or have you every thought that your DH needed you around in order to make sure that he does things right?




Edited 3/1/2009 12:53 pm ET by semi-emptynester

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Registered: 02-05-2009
Sun, 02-22-2009 - 8:26pm

I've thought it plenty of times. Plenty!

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Registered: 02-06-2009
Sun, 02-22-2009 - 9:24pm
No my dh can take care of himself and while he might not do things exactly like I do, he has gotten better with doing things the way I like so I don't go and re-do them-lol!!
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Registered: 08-31-2008
Sun, 02-22-2009 - 9:37pm
Do you ever do things the way he likes?
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Registered: 02-07-2009
Sun, 02-22-2009 - 10:39pm

I had to rein myself in a few years ago. For about a year and a half I was the cook at the elementary school that DD3 attended. Since I had to be at work at 6:30 DH was in charge of getting the girls off to school and the first time I would see DD3 every day was when she came through the lunch line.

Some days she would some though in clothes that I would not have picked for her to wear to school. I realized that he was in parent in charge of getting her off to school so he was the one to make the decision, not me. He would never think of telling me how to dress our child and I showed him the same respect.

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Mon, 02-23-2009 - 10:24am

i think you might have just taken it the wrong way.

 

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Mon, 02-23-2009 - 10:34am
Yeah, that only works if your DH doesn't dress your 18 month old in a black turtleneck on an 80+ degree day.
baby in clothes basket
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Registered: 02-05-2009
Mon, 02-23-2009 - 10:36am

my ex husband once brought liza over to my house the first year we were divorced, I took one look at her and said "why is she in pajamas?"

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Registered: 10-07-2004
Mon, 02-23-2009 - 11:33am

I agree with you, that often complaints about men being inept stem from just doing a task differently than you would.

When I mow the lawn, I tend to leave little strips of tall grass where I missed overlapping enough. When he does the laundry, he throws towels in with clothing. He can't stand the little tufts of grass and I can't stand those little fuzz balls on my clothes. Neither of us are inept (completely) in performing these tasks, we just have our own methods and preferences in doing them. He tends to make sure the grass is mowed so I don't step on his territory, and I try to make sure I keep the laundry kept up in the way I like it so he doesn't have to. That being said, I don't complain when my husband does laundry, and he's happy as a clam on a 90 degree day to find that the lawn is already done and he can sit in the AC and relax!

When I SAH years ago, I always imagined my dh would have been a much more organized SAHP than I was. I envisioned a wall calendar/wall chart filled with rotating tasks, and a spot to check mark them off. This isn't a man who can grocery shop for a pasta dinner and forget the actual pasta like I'm capable of doing.

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Registered: 01-08-2009
Mon, 02-23-2009 - 12:38pm
I don't think any host who gets "in your face" to a guest who is just being polite and making an off-hand comment deserves "kudos."
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Registered: 01-20-2009
Mon, 02-23-2009 - 1:17pm

"I see it from time to time on various forums, ladies complaining that their DH's do every thing wrong (uh, no they just do things differently from how you may have done it)."


Wrong.

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