Men are inept?

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Men are inept?
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Sun, 02-22-2009 - 6:32pm

Not sure how to make this a debate subject so I will just ramble along and see where it leads us.

One of my major per peeves: The idea that mean are inept idiots who don't know what they are doing without us woman folk to guild them.

I see it from time to time on various forums, ladies complaining that their DH's do every thing wrong (uh, no they just do things differently from how you may have done it).

Do you or have you every thought that your DH needed you around in order to make sure that he does things right?




Edited 3/1/2009 12:53 pm ET by semi-emptynester

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Mon, 02-23-2009 - 1:22pm

my friend I think pretty much eVERYONE's standards are lower than yours LOL -- I bet he likes the break tee hee...;-)


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Mon, 02-23-2009 - 1:44pm
Dh and I had a conversation about this the other day. He doesn't clean because the house only needs to be cleaned (countertops washed, floors swept and mopped, dusted, toilet cleaned) every three months.
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Mon, 02-23-2009 - 1:45pm
On nights my dad worked at the fire department (24 hour shifts), my mom always made easy stuff for dinner-- fish sticks and tater tots, macaroni and cheese, etc.
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Mon, 02-23-2009 - 1:47pm
Yeah....and your point? LOL.
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Mon, 02-23-2009 - 2:29pm

You at least wipe off your counter tops after you've used them though, right? Bread crumbs, cheese crumbles, peanut butter smears-- and that's just without the cooking we do.

Plus we have a dog and a toddler. Although, they do clean up some of each other's messes (mostly the dog cleaning up the dining room floor after Samantha).

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Mon, 02-23-2009 - 2:34pm

<< Do you or have you every thought that your DH needed you around in order to make sure that he does things right?>>

When I leave DS with him I wonder that, but it's because of lack of experience, not ineptness. And frankly, it's DH that I worry about, not DS, LOL. I may very well come home and DH might be drenched from head-to-toe while DS runs around naked and laughing, and DH might say "How the HECK do you bathe him???"

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Mon, 02-23-2009 - 2:36pm

No DH doesn't wipe the kitchen table or countertops after each use. He doesn't rinse the used toothpaste down the sink.


I learned when my kids were younger that there's only two possibilities: do it or have someone other than DH do it, or lower my standards. Literally nothing is going to make DH care that the kitchen is cleaned up before church rather than afterwards.

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Mon, 02-23-2009 - 2:36pm

I would point out to that Bible study leader that talking about men as if they are inept is not in keeping with the high view in which God holds them.


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Mon, 02-23-2009 - 2:40pm
I like your dh more and more the more you write about him -- he's my kind of guy.
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Mon, 02-23-2009 - 3:11pm

Have any of you seen that Carl's Jr./Hardee's ad where the guy goes shopping at the grocery store? He goes up to the meat section, looks at a package of ground beef, and just pokes at it?

I swear to you, sometimes my DH seems like that. My incredibly intelligent DH who has two bachelor's degrees and owned his own business just sometimes ACTS like he is totally inept. I know he's NOT, but sometimes he SEEMS like it.

Example. Once before we moved in together, he decided to bake some fish. He borrowed a dish from his house mate. He didn't check to see whether it was oven safe. It wasn't. After awhile, he heard it explode in the oven, realized his mistake, and went to go investigate. What would you have done? I would have dumped the whole thing in the trash and put on a can of soup. He? Tried to eat the fish, thinking he could eat around the (clear, totally transparent) glass shards or pick them out. He realized the hard way that this was a really, really bad idea.

Can he function in the world without me? Yes, he can. Are things easier/smoother/better for him in many ways because we are partners? Yes, they are.


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