Men are inept?

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Men are inept?
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Sun, 02-22-2009 - 6:32pm

Not sure how to make this a debate subject so I will just ramble along and see where it leads us.

One of my major per peeves: The idea that mean are inept idiots who don't know what they are doing without us woman folk to guild them.

I see it from time to time on various forums, ladies complaining that their DH's do every thing wrong (uh, no they just do things differently from how you may have done it).

Do you or have you every thought that your DH needed you around in order to make sure that he does things right?




Edited 3/1/2009 12:53 pm ET by semi-emptynester

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Tue, 02-24-2009 - 7:40am

The other day Kelly and I were hving a friend over to dinner so I did my version of killing myself to clean - and when Kelly came over I said "doesn't it look nice and clean?" and she did one of those "must. restrain. myself. from. cleaning. all. over. again." looks and just smiled at me and said "mmmmm.hmmmmm. great job sweetie"

we had a good laugh about it that night after he left -- Iw as SO proud and she was thinking "What cleaning?" LOL

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Tue, 02-24-2009 - 10:32am

I think pretty much eVERYONE's standards are lower than yours LOL

Oh, that's not true; she would NEVER scoop litterboxes twice a day! ;)
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Tue, 02-24-2009 - 10:37am

I know of men who even talk about eachother as if they are inept.

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Tue, 02-24-2009 - 10:42am
I realized I haven't responded seriously yet. My DH is not even close to inept. I know he would get along fine without me. Samantha and William would never be in matching clothes. The house would be tidy, but dirty (or he would hire a cleaning lady)-- he doesn't like clutter, but couldn't care less about dirt. However, they would be fed and clothed and loved.
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Tue, 02-24-2009 - 10:47am

My dh is very neat but he never wipes the kitchen counter!

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Tue, 02-24-2009 - 10:53am
I'm kinda like that -- it's not intentional I just tend to think things are cleaner than they are and then I think 'ah I'll get to that later"
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Tue, 02-24-2009 - 10:55am
Keeping a dirty house *is* inept.
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Tue, 02-24-2009 - 11:11am

"Also, I think you tend to be sloppier at a task if you dont have to do it all the time. I dont like to use tons of utensils, dishes, pots and pans when I cook because I know how annoying it is, night after night, to clean everything up. When dh cooks, he gleefully uses everything he can get his hands on, because one night's worth of cleanup doesn't seem like a big deal. KWIM? "

I think the level of sloppiness can be a matter of personality. Both dh and I like to cook, and we share the cooking fairly equally (always have). Both of us have carried out experiments in labs for many years. Our style of cooking is very similar to our style of carrying out experiments. Dh grabs out things at random and leaves a huge mess, both in the kitchen and in the lab. I, on the other hand, tend to be neat to the point of absurdity, cleaning up very carefully as I go along in both the kitchen and the lab. When we shared a lab bench, our different styles resulted in me putting a red tape down the middle of the bench with the words "do not cross this line" marked on the tape ;-).

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Tue, 02-24-2009 - 11:19am
That's us too, but the opposite. I'm the messy one and DH is the neat one when it comes to cooking-- well, kind of. What little mess he makes, he doesn't clean up. I make a big mess, but do clean it up.
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Registered: 12-07-2003
Tue, 02-24-2009 - 11:20am
At what point is dirty inept?
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