Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3
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| Sat, 03-25-2006 - 9:59am |
A 2 year old and 17 month old twins. First she accomplished *that* through two surrogates! Wonderful what modern medicine can do.
Anyway, she doesnt work full time, she consults to several companies so is out of the home one full day then a few hours a day on other days. Sometimes for work, sometimes to go to the gym, etc.
She has a full time live in nanny, and two part time nannies. Essentially they always have someone with them and the kids. She feels she needs two to properly care for her three.
I immediately thought of all the comments her lifestyle would elicit from this board.
The day she and I met she had just come from a 2 hour session at the gym, and was then heading off to go do some shopping.
BTW, she's a complete rock star in industry, having 'retired' a year ago after a 30 year career that took her right up to the top of corporate America so she's definetly *earned* her right to do whatever the heck she wants.
But anyway, she feels she is a super hands on mom. I was curious what others would think?
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Define shelter please? How many people have told you that they HS to shelter their kids? Do you even realize how many people HS?Do you think the number of people you have personally talked to on the subject is a large representative sample?
You have never met a parent who can't wait to put their kid on the bus everyday or who doesn't want to be bothered with helping their child with school work? They must not exist then. "The plural of anecdote isn't data."
How many people have told you that they HS to shelter their kids?
None because most don't look at it that way.
"We" belong to an inter-generational playgroup and the young toddlers play with the seniors at a nursing home. I think the benefit is one-sided ~ the seniors love it, the kids are basically unaware of anyone beyond themselves for the 2-hour visit.
With our kids, the situation is similar because my kids' grandparents are really hands-off observers and the g-parents benefit mostly. I know lots of g-parents are NOT like that.
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I don't think anyone on this board had 3 children so close in age. That's the difference. My children were still wobbly, fell over a bit and were getting into everything at 17 months. The thought of two 17 month-olds and an active 2 year-old would definitely inspire me to hire full-time help. And if like in the OP, my DH were not around at all, I would have definitely hired nannies for the nights and weekends. Like you, I wanted to do it all without help during their earliest years. And I did with my 3.
But without help, the OP would be a total mess, without a minute to herself. Under those circumstances, how could you not hire help, especially since it might only be for a year or two? In fact, without help, I can see one or two of the children's "needs" being neglected, diapers not changed immediately, feedings would have to wait, on a daily basis, etc. That's not living and enjoying children, it's subsisting, if that.
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