Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3

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Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3
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Sat, 03-25-2006 - 9:59am

A 2 year old and 17 month old twins. First she accomplished *that* through two surrogates! Wonderful what modern medicine can do.
Anyway, she doesnt work full time, she consults to several companies so is out of the home one full day then a few hours a day on other days. Sometimes for work, sometimes to go to the gym, etc.
She has a full time live in nanny, and two part time nannies. Essentially they always have someone with them and the kids. She feels she needs two to properly care for her three.
I immediately thought of all the comments her lifestyle would elicit from this board.
The day she and I met she had just come from a 2 hour session at the gym, and was then heading off to go do some shopping.
BTW, she's a complete rock star in industry, having 'retired' a year ago after a 30 year career that took her right up to the top of corporate America so she's definetly *earned* her right to do whatever the heck she wants.
But anyway, she feels she is a super hands on mom. I was curious what others would think?

MM

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 8:09am
Good post. I have never heard anyone claim sheltering was their primary goal for homeschooling. It wasn't on my radar screen.
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 8:10am
I am glad some people get it.
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 8:13am
Yep. Plus school socialization isn't all roses and kittens all the time either!;-)
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 8:19am

I would like to hear your definition. Do you think it's a bad thing to want to shelter one's kids? That is the impression that I get from so many people when they talk about homeschooling.

I am happy for your children that they are getting a great education, so are mine, with me and our many co-op opportunities.

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 8:19am

>Children join the wrong crowd because something is wrong with their home life. I refuse to say the parents are wholly without fault.<


I disagree.

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 8:20am

"There is no lack of favorable socialization in homeschooling."

And therein lies the catch. If the homeschooled child is getting adequate socialization, the possibility of peer dependence is still there. The only way to avoid the possibility of peer dependence is to not be with peers- in other words, to not have adequate socialization. Kids are drawn to peers- as they should be for normal social development. Whether or not they start to redefine themselves in terms of those peers is more a matter of personality than exposure. Pehaps hs holds the promise of being able to handpick peers and thus keep the kid away from particular influential types. But it's an empty promise because the peer influence that another kid wields has more to do with their own personality than it does with whether or not their own parents also decided to hs and joined the same co-op.

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 8:21am

That's the point, I'm not trying to recreate the traditional school setting.


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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 8:21am
Very true.
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 8:25am

Why do you think homeschoolers would want to recreate the daily group setting of traditional school?

Oh yeah, make sure you keep your kids away from those awful homeschooling kids and their parents!!!!LOLOLOLOL!

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 8:27am
<> What makes you think you are qualified to determine how everyone else should handle their child's education? The rest of your post is just silly.

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