Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3
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| Sat, 03-25-2006 - 9:59am |
A 2 year old and 17 month old twins. First she accomplished *that* through two surrogates! Wonderful what modern medicine can do.
Anyway, she doesnt work full time, she consults to several companies so is out of the home one full day then a few hours a day on other days. Sometimes for work, sometimes to go to the gym, etc.
She has a full time live in nanny, and two part time nannies. Essentially they always have someone with them and the kids. She feels she needs two to properly care for her three.
I immediately thought of all the comments her lifestyle would elicit from this board.
The day she and I met she had just come from a 2 hour session at the gym, and was then heading off to go do some shopping.
BTW, she's a complete rock star in industry, having 'retired' a year ago after a 30 year career that took her right up to the top of corporate America so she's definetly *earned* her right to do whatever the heck she wants.
But anyway, she feels she is a super hands on mom. I was curious what others would think?
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Jennie
What a wonderful illustration of my point. Please, be very sure that you are *completely* clear that "preschool" is NOT "daycare", lol. Wouldn't want anyone to mistake the two.
Shades of gray......
"IOW, a child must experience something first hand to have any knowledge of the subject." When it comes to relationships and human interaction, YES, they really do have to experience to understand it. Drugs are not an example of a human relationship but sex certainly is. Your child will not understand how to TRULY conductthemselves in a sexual relationship until they have one. You can give guidelines such as "use protection" and "no means no", but until they are actually in one, they will have only a vaguely academic understanding of sex. Luckily that is all that is needed until adulthood so there is no need to experiment as a literal child. However, the foundations of a sexual relationship are set in childhood and include EXPERIENCE with how to interact with peers both positively and negatively. A child with no experience of the wiles, headgames and outright hostility of other children will be easy pickings as an afult for date rape (not able to spot the warning signs) and other predatory or negative sexual behaviour.
You can't spot the bad guys when you're 21 if you never had to spot them when you were 11.
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It isn't adults who socialize kids. It's other kids. "Social norms" means far more than simply when you should "please" and "thank you" and moral guidelines such as not stealing. Kids need to learn how to conform to the group they will actually be living with after their parents have died of old age.
It may not be the adults who 'socialize' the kids but it is the behavior and expectations of
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