Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3

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Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3
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Sat, 03-25-2006 - 9:59am

A 2 year old and 17 month old twins. First she accomplished *that* through two surrogates! Wonderful what modern medicine can do.
Anyway, she doesnt work full time, she consults to several companies so is out of the home one full day then a few hours a day on other days. Sometimes for work, sometimes to go to the gym, etc.
She has a full time live in nanny, and two part time nannies. Essentially they always have someone with them and the kids. She feels she needs two to properly care for her three.
I immediately thought of all the comments her lifestyle would elicit from this board.
The day she and I met she had just come from a 2 hour session at the gym, and was then heading off to go do some shopping.
BTW, she's a complete rock star in industry, having 'retired' a year ago after a 30 year career that took her right up to the top of corporate America so she's definetly *earned* her right to do whatever the heck she wants.
But anyway, she feels she is a super hands on mom. I was curious what others would think?

MM

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 9:37am
my daughter attended preschool for 7 hours a day three days a week - and it was in no way a daycare - in fact the school she attended is considering adding a daycare to their facility but as of yet have not done so. and i know alot of kids who go to "daycare" only 20 hours a week.
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 9:38am

Kicker is I wouldn't be in that situation. I don't want an absentee husband/father. And I won't want to earn $7M.

FTR, I never said she shouldn't have help. Not once. My main argument has been that her $$ or career doesn't have an effect on what rights she has a parent nor makes her an extraordinary parent.

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 9:42am

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That's such bullcrap I don't even know what to say in response.

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 9:43am
but, is that not the world you have chosen to live in....why would you not want it to be the one your children live in. i am assuming you choose where you wanted to live
Jennie
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 9:47am
I doubt it is an unimportant part of why they homeschool.

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Registered: 11-03-2005
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 9:50am

My point isn't that having money changes people (although it sometimes does). My point is that the type of person that works 60 hours a week, travels extensively and has the ambition to make $7M is a different kind of person than someone who is content working 35-40 hours a week and making 35K with a 5 min commute and no overtime (like my dh). My dh couldn't make $7M without changing the kind of person he is.

IOW, making big money doesn't cause a person to have Personality Style X. But having Personality Style X is what enables a person to make make big money.

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Exactly. Because he's always been that type of person. His personality/style/ambition is part of what enabled him to make big money. For many families, in order to make big money, a spouse would have to change dramatically becaue they don't currently have the personality/style/ambition to make big money.

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I totally agree. Irrelevant because I didn't make such a blanket statement.

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Of course. Never said it did.

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 10:03am
When I was on LOA with my infant dd2, dd1 was a 3yo. There was a church-based program a couple blocks away. We visited it, the kids looked happy, and I booked her into it 3 days/week. Did the staff there talk to me about "developmentally appropriate" and so on? You betcha. Did I care if it was a day care or a preschool? No way. Which was it? I forget...;-)
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 10:07am

ita. i think there is much less peer pressure and needs to fit in during elementary years than middle school or high school......a homeschool child entering h.s. can be just as much of a challenge and damaging as the child who must adapt to a new school because of a move.

what a child has learned to deal with earlier gets lost if the playing field has changed.

 

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Registered: 11-03-2005
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 10:13am

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I agree to an extent. Most of the "fitting in" I see in elementary school comes from adults trying to make kids fit into the box society has created. As the mom of a "marches-to-the-beat-of-a-different-drum" kid, I find that mindset has the potential to be a big negative to many kids.

It's the middle school years that concern me the most wrt peer pressure/influence. My theory has always been that as elem students, parents are still the biggest influence in a child's life. And by the time they reach hs, most kids have developed their moral/value/belief system to an extent that peer pressure/influence has less of an effect. But in middle school ... ack! I'm not ready for that ...

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 10:14am

Of the ten families that we spend the most time with there is the following:


1 practicing Jewish family, 4 agnostic and one Catholic that I have discussed religion with, the others, we haven't discussed religion.

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