Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3

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Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3
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Sat, 03-25-2006 - 9:59am

A 2 year old and 17 month old twins. First she accomplished *that* through two surrogates! Wonderful what modern medicine can do.
Anyway, she doesnt work full time, she consults to several companies so is out of the home one full day then a few hours a day on other days. Sometimes for work, sometimes to go to the gym, etc.
She has a full time live in nanny, and two part time nannies. Essentially they always have someone with them and the kids. She feels she needs two to properly care for her three.
I immediately thought of all the comments her lifestyle would elicit from this board.
The day she and I met she had just come from a 2 hour session at the gym, and was then heading off to go do some shopping.
BTW, she's a complete rock star in industry, having 'retired' a year ago after a 30 year career that took her right up to the top of corporate America so she's definetly *earned* her right to do whatever the heck she wants.
But anyway, she feels she is a super hands on mom. I was curious what others would think?

MM

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 10:17am

it depends on how *you* define wrong crowd, don't you think?

to me, the wrong crowd are the impolite kids on the playground, the snorters at the gas station, the supermarket robbers...if it is this (to you too), then there is some terrible dysfunction going on out home that these kids have not learned to separate from and deal with hence her point. kwim?

 

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 10:18am

I totally agree.


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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 10:19am

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You are calling her lifestyle quite a few names and you are likely right, it's not high school, but perhaps more junior high school?

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 10:24am

There's some terrible dysfunction going on at home if a kid hangs out with kids that are impolite on the playground?

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 10:31am
if said child is copying said behavior, yes....a reason why i never believed my child to be like one of those kids making wrong choices (when we had issues earlier this year).......the *habitual* kids that act this way have something wrong going on at home.

 

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 10:33am

You're putting impolite kids at the playground in the same group as supermarket robbers?!?

:::backing away slowly::: alrighty then.....

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 10:34am

see, i think that is very cool, personally i do not know that many families who are that different than we are, so school is a great place for my kids to meet and learn about new and different people and ideas. but i will admit that is a shortcoming of mine.
i agree that choices are great and eveyone should do what works for them. for me i want my kids to have roots, to have a place that they call home, probably because that is what i had growing up and i know how much it meant and still means to me.
you say the kids range in age from 3-9, so for the 3-5 year old group are those kids being considered homeschooled, because if they are then i guess i also homeschool my almost 3 year old - i am teaching him his numbers, colors, shapes and about the world around him. i dont really consider it homeschooling but maybe it is.
thanks for sharing your information.

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 10:36am
Whatever. I totally don't agree. Not at the level of "impolite on the playground".
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 10:42am
having gone thru middle school and now being in high school i agree that middle school is the worst, but high school is very difficult as well it the child has not developed a "crowd" to be part of. in elementary school most kids will play with any other kids, they just want to play. in middle school is where the kids tend to form and cement their groups. in high school is where those groups tend to be less inclusive of others and it is harder to break into an already formed group (granted my experience has been with a girl, i dont know about boys). i also agree that by high school moral/value/belief systems are or should be in place, but the need to fit in can still get in the way of that, especially if a group of friends is not already in place.
Jennie
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 10:46am

I totally agree.


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