Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3

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Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3
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Sat, 03-25-2006 - 9:59am

A 2 year old and 17 month old twins. First she accomplished *that* through two surrogates! Wonderful what modern medicine can do.
Anyway, she doesnt work full time, she consults to several companies so is out of the home one full day then a few hours a day on other days. Sometimes for work, sometimes to go to the gym, etc.
She has a full time live in nanny, and two part time nannies. Essentially they always have someone with them and the kids. She feels she needs two to properly care for her three.
I immediately thought of all the comments her lifestyle would elicit from this board.
The day she and I met she had just come from a 2 hour session at the gym, and was then heading off to go do some shopping.
BTW, she's a complete rock star in industry, having 'retired' a year ago after a 30 year career that took her right up to the top of corporate America so she's definetly *earned* her right to do whatever the heck she wants.
But anyway, she feels she is a super hands on mom. I was curious what others would think?

MM

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 10:49am
having spent more hours at recess this year then i care to think about i have to agree with you. alot of impolite on the playground is kids just being kids and getting caught up in the moment. has NOTHING to do with what is or is not going on at home - that is kind of silly.
Jennie
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 10:53am

I agree

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 11:04am
As I've said, I can totally understand having help... I just don't understand the need for help 24/7. (Thus requiring 3 nannies)
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 11:11am
I think it's a better idea to teach kids how to stay away from bad infuences on their own. If you just shelter them from bad influences completely, they will not know how to properly deal with them when they are confronted with them as an adult.
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Registered: 12-29-1999
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 11:14am

It isn't shades of gray. How do you not see that there is a huge difference between spending 20-40hrs a week somewhere and spending 6 hrs a week somewhere? The parental involvement requirement is HUGE--there is almost always at least one parent in the classroom of DS's preschool and it is a very big deal to DS when it is my turn to be parent helper. Do you not see a difference in a classroom that has parents helping vs. a classroom w/no parents helping? Moreover, the schedules of the programs are extremely different, as there is considerably more "programming" in the 12 hr class vs. the 3 hr class.

Six hours of optional vs 40 hrs of necessity. How on earth is that a shade of gray?

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Registered: 12-29-1999
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 11:17am
Do you mean to direct that at me? I also stated that there is a big difference between daycare and preschool--it appears you agree. Was this aimed at the OP who said that there was no difference between preschool and daycare?
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Registered: 01-15-2006
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 11:18am
>>alot of impolite on the playground is kids just being kids and getting caught up in the moment <<
i disagree....i'm not talking about kids that get caught up in some moment of fun. i'm talking about kids that use garbage language, look for trouble and poke fun in the form of insults at others ON A REGULAR BASIS.

 

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 11:18am
Thought I'd add... I made it very clear in that post that I was *not* responding to the situation in the OP, but that I was responding to MMs statement that all of us would have chosen to have help if money wasn't an issue.
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Registered: 10-17-2003
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 11:21am
<> Yep. I've already informed dh that if we truly want another child we will be adopting one who is 4 yo. or older. I loved my babies but I'm a "big kid" person (plus I have a few health issues now that I didn't then but my thoughts were along those lines before).
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Registered: 07-16-2005
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 11:26am
So you're saying it's possible for a child to have loving, involved parents who foster his interests in sports (they drive him to or attend his games) or academics (they praise his good work/grades and check his homework) or arts/hobbies, to simply give up all of that for drugs, failing grades or skipping classes by hanging out in the school parking lot with some rebellious or simply apathetic classmates?

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