Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3

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Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3
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Sat, 03-25-2006 - 9:59am

A 2 year old and 17 month old twins. First she accomplished *that* through two surrogates! Wonderful what modern medicine can do.
Anyway, she doesnt work full time, she consults to several companies so is out of the home one full day then a few hours a day on other days. Sometimes for work, sometimes to go to the gym, etc.
She has a full time live in nanny, and two part time nannies. Essentially they always have someone with them and the kids. She feels she needs two to properly care for her three.
I immediately thought of all the comments her lifestyle would elicit from this board.
The day she and I met she had just come from a 2 hour session at the gym, and was then heading off to go do some shopping.
BTW, she's a complete rock star in industry, having 'retired' a year ago after a 30 year career that took her right up to the top of corporate America so she's definetly *earned* her right to do whatever the heck she wants.
But anyway, she feels she is a super hands on mom. I was curious what others would think?

MM

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 11:27am
i dont see alot of that on our playground, but then it is very well supervised. talk to me a minute about garbage language - i know someone, noone on this board, who was pitching a fit about her child hearing some bad words on the school bus, her child is 8-9, im not sure. do parents really get that worked up about that - my 7 year old has definately heard bad words, but she also knows not to repeat them. just wondering what another mom thought
Jennie
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 11:28am
I know that is your point. I undertood that is your belief. It is my belief that it is exactly one of the reasons why many families homeschool.

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 11:29am
Definitely agree. I don't mind my kids hitting some rough spots in the developmental road all along the way.

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 11:29am
Exactly. And even if the child falls in with the wrong crowd, then the involved, concerned parent steps in as soon as she learns about it. Action is taken, the principal approached, consequences and punishments given, and possibly even a school transfer arranged.
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 11:31am

Because bad influences are part of society, and by artificially delaying the age at which they become immersed in an environment that includes bad influences, you are running the risk of them being more naive and less "street smart" than other children their age.


I don't want my children to be protected from bad influences, I want them to learn how to handle themselves in such situations.

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 11:33am

I can't avoid asking the question of whether I was more picky in terms of a mate than you were, because how can you possibly tell how a 19 year old man is going to be at age 40?

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 11:35am
yes, i think it is possible. bad kids dont just happen to bad parents, good parents also have kids who turn out not so good
Jennie
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 11:37am
I'd simply move to a much better, more diverse school system.

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 11:38am

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So how are you accomplishing that?

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 11:41am

i disagree. again ;)......i think a *bad* child is a child who makes wrong choices and wrong behaviors. when my child was diagnosed with a behavior condition, the first persons i turned to were dh and i and questioned what we were doing wrong. we were doing things wrong and learned to change ways ourselves...i think bad kids have parents that either have a lot to learn or chose to blind themselves to the family condition.

edited to clarify my point.




Edited 3/28/2006 12:44 pm ET by egd3blessed

 

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