Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3

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Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3
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Sat, 03-25-2006 - 9:59am

A 2 year old and 17 month old twins. First she accomplished *that* through two surrogates! Wonderful what modern medicine can do.
Anyway, she doesnt work full time, she consults to several companies so is out of the home one full day then a few hours a day on other days. Sometimes for work, sometimes to go to the gym, etc.
She has a full time live in nanny, and two part time nannies. Essentially they always have someone with them and the kids. She feels she needs two to properly care for her three.
I immediately thought of all the comments her lifestyle would elicit from this board.
The day she and I met she had just come from a 2 hour session at the gym, and was then heading off to go do some shopping.
BTW, she's a complete rock star in industry, having 'retired' a year ago after a 30 year career that took her right up to the top of corporate America so she's definetly *earned* her right to do whatever the heck she wants.
But anyway, she feels she is a super hands on mom. I was curious what others would think?

MM

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Registered: 11-03-2005
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 11:42am
Yep.
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 11:44am
No disagreement here.
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 11:45am

I'm a gypsy by nature I think.

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 11:45am
and its not just the rough spots but learning to deal with their peers without mom being within arms reach. the one think i have noticed about the homeschooling co-ops is that all the parents tend to stay, at least with the younger kids. i like that my kids are learning to navigate without me always being there. my middle daughter is very shy, if i were to stay with her everywhere she would never come out of her shell, she would stay glued to me. fortunately with a couple of years of school and having to be away from me for part of each day she is learning to trust in herself, in a way that i dont think she would have if i had always been right there. she went thru the first half year of k saying less than 10 words a day and when she did talk it was in a whisper, but she is getting better with time and gaining more self confidence in the process.
Jennie
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 11:46am
Again, just bullcrap.
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 11:54am
okay, so if you have a family that has multiple children and only one turns out bad, that is the parents fault. the fact is that kids have choices to make and some make good ones and others dont, and having un-loving, un-involved parents is not the only reason that a child will make bad choices. when my oldest daughter was having issues in middle school, sure we looked to see if we were doing something wrong - but we werent (at least according to the professionals we spoke with) - she just had to learn to make better choices, she had been taught how she was just choosing not to. once she figured out her life would go much smoother if she made better choices things did a 180. but in no way do i take responsibility for her bad choices. and while like everyone else i am sure i have alot to learn i am not in the least blind to my families condition.
Jennie
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 11:55am

Are you saying that there was a terrible dysfunction in your family that caused your child to copy this behavior?


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 11:56am

Having logged quite a bit of time as a playground helper, I would have to agree.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 01-10-2006
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 11:57am
True. At least he finally came to his senses though!
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 11:58am

How much time have you spent on the playground observing this?

PumpkinAngel

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