Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3

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Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3
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Sat, 03-25-2006 - 9:59am

A 2 year old and 17 month old twins. First she accomplished *that* through two surrogates! Wonderful what modern medicine can do.
Anyway, she doesnt work full time, she consults to several companies so is out of the home one full day then a few hours a day on other days. Sometimes for work, sometimes to go to the gym, etc.
She has a full time live in nanny, and two part time nannies. Essentially they always have someone with them and the kids. She feels she needs two to properly care for her three.
I immediately thought of all the comments her lifestyle would elicit from this board.
The day she and I met she had just come from a 2 hour session at the gym, and was then heading off to go do some shopping.
BTW, she's a complete rock star in industry, having 'retired' a year ago after a 30 year career that took her right up to the top of corporate America so she's definetly *earned* her right to do whatever the heck she wants.
But anyway, she feels she is a super hands on mom. I was curious what others would think?

MM

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 12:30pm
I can only describe that attitude as defeatist, and it nicely absolves the disinterested parent of his nonfeasance to boot.
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 12:32pm

That's exactly what happened to my brother.

Amy

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 12:34pm
I'd move the heck outta that town.

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 12:36pm

I have mixed feelings on same-sex education, having read the same conflicting studies. The way it seems to parse out is that same-sex education can be an asset for the distractable, for those who just don't learn as well when members of the opposite sex are there. Or (applicable to girls) who downgrade their own abilities in order to appear less "masculine" with scientific/mathematical ability. On the con side, it turns the opposite sex into even more of a mysterious "other" than they already are and can distort adult work relationships because the ability to concentrate with "them" around wasn't learned at that pivotal age.

So I'm not too crazy about them in general (because adult work enviroments are integrated so the ability to concentrate on work with the opposite sex there should already be firmly in place). But I recognize that some teens really CAN'T concentrate on work with the opposite sex around and so maybe that's where they should be. And if they never learn that skill, perhaps they'll wind up in a barely integrated work situation where it will be a moot point. Or maybe they'll learn it outside the school setting at summer jobs (that would be my push as a parent).

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 12:37pm

'But we like the house, we like the land, we like the amenities and recreational opportunities

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 12:37pm

OK, but what about the first part of my post: <>

If the school-aged child is continued to allow to associate with the dregs, then the parent needs to try to change the home situation to cure the problem.

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 12:38pm

Why can't they sell their house?

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 12:41pm
I agree. A good kid with involved, concerned parents can slip up from time to time. But not on a regular basis. The concerned parent intervenes and refuses to allow a child to misbehave.
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 12:43pm
Yes I work in elementary schools, not directly with students. I'm basically a secretary for about 15 special ed teachers. Homechoolers and private school students do qualify for sped if their parents bring them in for testing & provide the transportation to get them here at the times the services can be provided. There are only a few I know of at each school, but I haven't spoken with any of their parents. The homeschoolers I know are friends/acquaintenances.

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 12:47pm
Let's just chalk this up to a bad week. You, Okie and I will resume our regular debate positions soon enough!

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