Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3
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Sat, 03-25-2006 - 9:59am

A 2 year old and 17 month old twins. First she accomplished *that* through two surrogates! Wonderful what modern medicine can do.
Anyway, she doesnt work full time, she consults to several companies so is out of the home one full day then a few hours a day on other days. Sometimes for work, sometimes to go to the gym, etc.
She has a full time live in nanny, and two part time nannies. Essentially they always have someone with them and the kids. She feels she needs two to properly care for her three.
I immediately thought of all the comments her lifestyle would elicit from this board.
The day she and I met she had just come from a 2 hour session at the gym, and was then heading off to go do some shopping.
BTW, she's a complete rock star in industry, having 'retired' a year ago after a 30 year career that took her right up to the top of corporate America so she's definetly *earned* her right to do whatever the heck she wants.
But anyway, she feels she is a super hands on mom. I was curious what others would think?

MM

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Registered: 07-16-2005
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 1:06pm

I didn't know the Amish ever allowed themselves to get crazy for a bit. That's good to hear.

It's the idea that the child will *stay* with the wrong crowd after the concerned parent intervenes. Dabbling will happen. But I think a little concern and love from the parent goes a long, long way with the previously neglected child; pulling back may help where the helicopter parent is involved, etc.

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 1:08pm
And there's absolutely no other school available? They can't afford private school? They can't move up to a better school district?
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Registered: 11-03-2005
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 1:09pm

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So why can't you see the opposite? "I have a checklist of things I value in education that I want imparted to my own children, and they cannot be satisfied through the traditional public schools."

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 1:10pm

Wow.

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 1:11pm
I'm so sorry.

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Registered: 11-03-2005
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 1:12pm
In many geographical regions, no, there aren't other schools available. And in some areas there are, and none of them fit their children's unique educational need.
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Registered: 07-16-2005
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 1:13pm

You tend to bring up drugs and sex when discussing traditional schools. I think in a post a while ago, I got the impression you also think school socialization necessarily involves bullying.

I went the traditional school route and have never even tried a drug and was a virgin 'til 22. I don't think you can even see how you equate this world's "evils" with school socialization.

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 1:14pm
But in my experience real estate values correlate to the excellence of the school system, whether or not one uses it.

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Registered: 07-16-2005
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 1:14pm
What are their children's "unique educational needs?"
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Registered: 11-03-2005
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 1:15pm
In some cases, all it would take would be the stroke of a pen. So it could be, quite literally, instantaneous. Such as when a school board redistricts its school boundaries to include the really really really bad parts of town in the same hs as the previously wonderful school.

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