Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3

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Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3
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Sat, 03-25-2006 - 9:59am

A 2 year old and 17 month old twins. First she accomplished *that* through two surrogates! Wonderful what modern medicine can do.
Anyway, she doesnt work full time, she consults to several companies so is out of the home one full day then a few hours a day on other days. Sometimes for work, sometimes to go to the gym, etc.
She has a full time live in nanny, and two part time nannies. Essentially they always have someone with them and the kids. She feels she needs two to properly care for her three.
I immediately thought of all the comments her lifestyle would elicit from this board.
The day she and I met she had just come from a 2 hour session at the gym, and was then heading off to go do some shopping.
BTW, she's a complete rock star in industry, having 'retired' a year ago after a 30 year career that took her right up to the top of corporate America so she's definetly *earned* her right to do whatever the heck she wants.
But anyway, she feels she is a super hands on mom. I was curious what others would think?

MM

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Registered: 08-23-2004
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 1:17pm
It's been on the market for three or four years...no one wants it.

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Registered: 11-03-2005
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 1:18pm
Yeah, their real estate value would most likely be affected ... but long-term that can straighten back out. So, they ride out the short-term real estate issue, homeschool, adn 15 years from now all is well.
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Registered: 03-12-2005
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 1:18pm
In our case more than one middle school combines into the high school and kids make new friends. It is not impossible to get friends if one hasn't always attended a specific school, otherwise transfer students would be SOL.
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Registered: 11-03-2005
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 1:20pm
In one case, the child is extremely gifted.
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Registered: 07-16-2005
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 1:22pm

I may have to submit on this one. What can the child get through hs'ing that they can't in the public schools? Special ed and the gifted programs in public schools are often available. Certainly, special ed should be at least.

The field trip thing? I definitely imitate that hs'ing ideal, no problem. One-on-one tutelage in the classroom? I don't want/need that, and can imitate it through homework (voluminous homework assignments in our district in particular). And never before have so many educational materials used in the classroom been available to us public school parents if we are so inclined.

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Registered: 03-12-2005
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 1:24pm
Adequate socialization is easy to meet through homeschooling at least it has been in our case. It might be tough in very isolated areas though.
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Registered: 07-16-2005
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 1:28pm

OK, that's one child. What about the rest?

And my understanding is that the gifted child is generally accelerated in grade level and takes college classes or full-out registers for college. Removing the gifted child from school is not helping him when the majority of HS'ing parents have only a high school degree and do not have their teacher's license.

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Registered: 03-12-2005
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 1:30pm

I didn't say that peer pressure wasn't an issue in highschool. With maturity many kids become better equipped at dealing with it. My dd has lots of friends. Many do attend public school.

If a child never has to deal with peer pressure(and I am not saying homeschoolers don't) it doesn't mean they will automatically become crippled when faced with it. My dd has dealt with kids being mean to other kids and has had no problems speaking up. I think that sometimes kids in a school setting get desensitized to that behavior which isn't necessarily a good thing either. They learn to put up and shut up.

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Registered: 08-23-2004
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 1:32pm
Yes, that's their plan basically.

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Registered: 07-16-2005
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 1:33pm
I disagree because parents have a lot of influence too. There are timid parents, there are overweening parents, etc., but then the problem is still partly the parent's.

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