Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3

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Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3
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Sat, 03-25-2006 - 9:59am

A 2 year old and 17 month old twins. First she accomplished *that* through two surrogates! Wonderful what modern medicine can do.
Anyway, she doesnt work full time, she consults to several companies so is out of the home one full day then a few hours a day on other days. Sometimes for work, sometimes to go to the gym, etc.
She has a full time live in nanny, and two part time nannies. Essentially they always have someone with them and the kids. She feels she needs two to properly care for her three.
I immediately thought of all the comments her lifestyle would elicit from this board.
The day she and I met she had just come from a 2 hour session at the gym, and was then heading off to go do some shopping.
BTW, she's a complete rock star in industry, having 'retired' a year ago after a 30 year career that took her right up to the top of corporate America so she's definetly *earned* her right to do whatever the heck she wants.
But anyway, she feels she is a super hands on mom. I was curious what others would think?

MM

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Registered: 03-12-2005
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 1:35pm
Kids can be taught how to deal with bad influences without actually having to be around them regularly though. I also think it is beneficial for some kids to be more mature when they have to be around bad influences on a regular basis. I agree it is good to start teaching kids about making good choices when they are very young.
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 1:38pm
If this happened to you though, wouldn't you do everything possible to get your child back on track? Move, hire a psychiatrist, call the cops, ground them 'til it hurts? You would be willing at some point to say, he's with the wrong crowd and I wash my hands of the matter because there's no point? I think it takes a lot of hard work and intervention, but it would eventually pay off.
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Registered: 08-27-2005
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 1:40pm
Accelerating the grade level is not always the best answer for a gifted child, nor would placing a child in college necessarily be good for him/her socially or emotionally. I could see some circumstances in which home schooling an extremely gifted child might be the answer, though I would imagine that it would involve specialised tutors as well.
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 1:41pm
Being able to "say no" to bad influences takes practice. You can teach a kid to hit a baseball with a bat for years, but if he never actually picks up a bat, he can't really hold on to those lessons. I'd rather my kids learn to deal with bad influences on their own when they are young and the influences aren't really that bad, than have to learn on the fly when people are offering them joints.
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 1:41pm
At what age do you think kids are best able to apply this ability to deal with bad influences? I say it varies according to the child. Of course all people should at some point know how to deal with bad influences, but that doesn't mean kids have to be around them regularly to know how to effectively deal.
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 1:42pm

Actually, the majority of homeschooling parents are college educated as per the HSLDA's most recent study.

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 1:43pm

Well, that's kinda what happens when you buy someplace without consideration for the school district lines, pay no attention to public notices of reconsideration of same and are so completely stupid you'd actually LEAVE your home on the market for 3 years. Can we all say "stale listing"?

if it doesn't sell, then you lower the price and look for other incentives, not the least of which is, consider renting the place, rather than selling. If they can't rent their home for more than the mortgage, after it's sat on the market for 3 years, they paid WAY too much money for the place in the first place.

PNJ has the right of it. You buy a place with a view to the investment and NOT because you like the land, the amenities and all the other drivel monicasometimes mentioned as reasons why they own the place they do. Those are grand but they are no reason to buy a home that's a bad investment (bordering on a bad school district if you don't plan to be uber-vigilant about redistricting). School systems are the number one indicator of home worth and appreciation; any decent real estate agent will tell you that. that makes it an important consideration whether you have children or not. Anyone without children, stupid enough to buy a home without considering the school situation, shouldn't be permitted to handle amounts of money greater than $20.

Karen


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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 1:43pm
Best able? They should be learning to do it from the start. When they are small, the risk of the "bad influences" are much much much lower than they are when they are teens.
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 1:44pm
The earlier the better depends entirely on the child in question and what you mean by deal with it.
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 1:48pm

She does if she ever plans on selling the house. Quality of schools is the single most important determining factor in home sales *and* in home appreciations. This is true whether you have kids in the local school system or not.

anyone making the kind of financial investment that buying a home entails who does NOT consider the quality of local schools as the most important determining factor is a foolish, foolish investor.

Karen


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"Veronica: "I hate fake deer too. Every time I see their stupid fake-deer faces I want to grab a shotgun and go all Cheney on 'em." Sure, but since fake deer don't talk, they won't

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