Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3

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Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3
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Sat, 03-25-2006 - 9:59am

A 2 year old and 17 month old twins. First she accomplished *that* through two surrogates! Wonderful what modern medicine can do.
Anyway, she doesnt work full time, she consults to several companies so is out of the home one full day then a few hours a day on other days. Sometimes for work, sometimes to go to the gym, etc.
She has a full time live in nanny, and two part time nannies. Essentially they always have someone with them and the kids. She feels she needs two to properly care for her three.
I immediately thought of all the comments her lifestyle would elicit from this board.
The day she and I met she had just come from a 2 hour session at the gym, and was then heading off to go do some shopping.
BTW, she's a complete rock star in industry, having 'retired' a year ago after a 30 year career that took her right up to the top of corporate America so she's definetly *earned* her right to do whatever the heck she wants.
But anyway, she feels she is a super hands on mom. I was curious what others would think?

MM

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 1:48pm
Why delay the inevitable, have them move out at 5,lol. I think it is wise in some cases to deal with things when one is more mature and better able to respond to a situation. Otherwise, we really should just have the kids move out at 5. If less street smart means, less likely to do drugs and to delay sexual activity, I say, I'll take less street smart!
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 1:48pm

I agree that accelerating a kid may not be in his best interest.

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 1:49pm
I had a single sex college education and have nothing but positive things to say about the experience. In fact, I think it is a shame that more and more institutions (including my alma mater) have gone co-ed b/c I think there is a great value in single sex education.
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 1:53pm

You are confusing my posts...go back and read.


It's not my house on the market...as for the rest of your drivel, it's pretty much just that. :)


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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 1:53pm

Well, you can't tell what a 19 year old is going to be like at 40. Or what a 30 year old will be like at 55....or a 40 year old at 65. Marriage is a leap of faith no matter your age.

I don't know that I was necessarily less picky than you or someone else that married older, but I do realize that I *wanted* to be in a serious relationship and even married at that age, and I think that has a great deal to do with it. I don't necessarily believe in soul-mates or one true love or anything like that. My DH and I are very compatible, we *like* each other, we take very good care of each other, and most of all, I think, we *want* to be married - and to each other. All that combined makes our marriage work moreso than romanticized ideas about True Love. I think you can find that with more than one person in a lifetime and at different stages in your life even if the relationships aren't exactly the same.

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 1:53pm

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Can you tell me your source for this wholly incorrect generalization?

I will admit there are heartless people in this world who will see someone being mean and do nothing. That has nothing to do with the public schools.

I remember the incident you are discussing. Your DD was at your lake house when she first met up with the neighbors for the summer, and someone was mean to someone else. Your DD spoke out and you were proud she stuck up for her beliefs, morals, etc. I OTOH saw a sheltered child who alienated an entire set of potential new friends for the summer.

By feeling comfortable in the group, public school setting, I have seen my own DD achieve the same ends ~ admonishing a wrongdoer ~ without alienating a soul and still managing to maintain her friendship with the wrongdoer who made a simple mistake. That is how it is done in the real world.

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 1:54pm
I was imagining more a 15 yo or younger going to college, think that could be very rough on a child. I started college ft when I was 17 and it wasn't an issue at all.
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 1:56pm
Yup I sure would do everything I could. But it's just not a guarantee. Some kids are just determined to really go with what they want to do. I have known families that seemed to do everything right. Their kids were in the accelerated program, they were involved in extracurricular stuff & their parents were involved in their lives & their school. And they still did drugs & got pregnant in high school & ran away from home, etc. But the other siblings didn't. Haven't you known any families like that?

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 1:57pm

You're right, I have one child of unusually high maturity and one child of average maturity for their ages, so I can't speak for all kinds of children.

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 1:57pm

I wasn't annoyed when you brought that up, I was amused.

I said that "Most" kids are better at making decisions when they are older. That is why we have laws that allow for drinking at 21 and voting at 18. The law recognizes this, why can't you?

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