Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3

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Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3
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Sat, 03-25-2006 - 9:59am

A 2 year old and 17 month old twins. First she accomplished *that* through two surrogates! Wonderful what modern medicine can do.
Anyway, she doesnt work full time, she consults to several companies so is out of the home one full day then a few hours a day on other days. Sometimes for work, sometimes to go to the gym, etc.
She has a full time live in nanny, and two part time nannies. Essentially they always have someone with them and the kids. She feels she needs two to properly care for her three.
I immediately thought of all the comments her lifestyle would elicit from this board.
The day she and I met she had just come from a 2 hour session at the gym, and was then heading off to go do some shopping.
BTW, she's a complete rock star in industry, having 'retired' a year ago after a 30 year career that took her right up to the top of corporate America so she's definetly *earned* her right to do whatever the heck she wants.
But anyway, she feels she is a super hands on mom. I was curious what others would think?

MM

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 1:58pm

Nope, not sold. Your definitions of daycare = no parental involvement and 40 required hours a week while preschool = parent in every class and only 12 hours a week are arbitrary and *entirely* gray. Plenty of kids in "daycare" are there less than 40 hours a week and I can easily find you dozens of examples of "preschools" that run more than 12 hours a week and have varying levels of parental involvement. It is completely uninformative and unnecessary (except by a few who are very certain that the labels mean something) to attach a specific label.

Why is it so important to you that the program your DS goes to not be called "daycare"?

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 1:58pm
And I've seen children who've grown up in a public school setting do both: alienate people by sticking up for their beliefs and be able to make a point without getting people upset. I suspect it has a lot more to do with individual personality than whether they were homeschooled or not.
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 1:58pm
In our state I do not think a 15 yo can be accepted at a college...i may be wrong though.

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 1:59pm

But if accelerating the grade level or college is bad for the child socially, I can't imagine the damage to the child of removing him from his friends and hs'ing. Better to utilize the same school environment at the same or upper grade and add the tutors. I've seen that done.

I would like to know your feelings on the subject. But I'm beginning to think the term "gifted" is quite overused these days. It is a very rare thing to be gifted in some or several areas and/or have an unusually high IQ. Lots of children gifted in one or several areas still need the same grade level as their same-age peers for other areas of tutelage. That's often forgotten with the push to teach the gifted and I can't shake the feeling that the label "gifted" has something to do with the parent's ego.




Edited 3/28/2006 3:07 pm ET by tinderbox3
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 1:59pm

I may have appeared to combine your two situations, but I have not confused the two situations. Your friends are sitting on a stale 3 year listed home; no buyer in the world will want to see it. if it's sat for 3 years, there must be something so wrong with it, it's not worth looking in to.

you mentioned the most ridiculously stupid reasons to buy a home that exist.

And as for my 'drivel" feel free to speak with any rational, successful real estate agent. They will tell you the same thing I have; if you ignore the quality (particularly, the lack) of local public schools when choosing to buy your home, you do so at your fiduciary risk. it's the single most basic tenet of real estate. Anyone who tells you differently, is probably trying to sell you a home that's been sitting on the market for 3 years.

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 2:00pm

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 2:00pm
The center my kids went to in Texas had a clever name - Day School. Best of both. Some kids came just for a set morning academic program, others came for the morning and afternoon. Either way, they had the best outdoor yard/play area I had ever seen and my kids loved it.
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 2:01pm

Go for it!

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 2:02pm
I think in the case of unusually gifted children, it is possible for them to attend university earlier. There have been cases of 10 yos attending university. I guesss I wouldn't necessarily assume that a 16 yo attending university falls into the unusually or very gifted category...but maybe that's because I started when I was 17 and I figured I was fairly average :-).
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 2:02pm

I must apologize for calling your post drivel...I should have sat on my hands. :) I have little patience for name calling when it comes to debate boards, or real

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