Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3
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Sat, 03-25-2006 - 9:59am

A 2 year old and 17 month old twins. First she accomplished *that* through two surrogates! Wonderful what modern medicine can do.
Anyway, she doesnt work full time, she consults to several companies so is out of the home one full day then a few hours a day on other days. Sometimes for work, sometimes to go to the gym, etc.
She has a full time live in nanny, and two part time nannies. Essentially they always have someone with them and the kids. She feels she needs two to properly care for her three.
I immediately thought of all the comments her lifestyle would elicit from this board.
The day she and I met she had just come from a 2 hour session at the gym, and was then heading off to go do some shopping.
BTW, she's a complete rock star in industry, having 'retired' a year ago after a 30 year career that took her right up to the top of corporate America so she's definetly *earned* her right to do whatever the heck she wants.
But anyway, she feels she is a super hands on mom. I was curious what others would think?

MM

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Registered: 03-12-2005
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 2:03pm
So your kind of sheltering is okay but what homeschoolers do isn't? Okayyyyyy. Not all parents homeschool for social reasons though.
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 2:03pm

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Lol. Can I print that out and frame it?

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Often, but not always. And often it just meets the minimum. Particularly when it comes to gifted programs. My hs didn't have one. And we have plenty of students that could have benefited.

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Registered: 07-16-2005
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 2:03pm

Yes, many of the sources provided by proponents of hs'ing are quite biased. If they were to be believed, every child who is currently being hs'ed is testing above his own grade level!

The fact remains, on the SATs, hs'ers score little better than the average public schooler which is not saying much. And the truth is most hs'ing parents do not have more than a high school degree. It is indisputable that most hs'ing parents do NOT have a teacher's license.

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 2:03pm

Why wouldn't you join a sorority?

I was never in one myself, but am just curious.

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 2:05pm
Decline to respond. Not interested in engaging with you.

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Registered: 07-16-2005
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 2:05pm
Yes, my kind of "sheltering" is healthy because the focus is on education as a priority and college as the inevitable goal. My children will certainly meet racially, ethnically and religiously diverse children, and that's also what I care about.
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 2:07pm
I wouldn't either.... I can answer for me. The main reason is I've never really enjoyed friendships with women above the superficial level. (IRL at least)
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 2:08pm

I'm running for my tissue box now.

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 2:08pm

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I'm not going to individually list every hs'er i know and justify their parents' choices to you. I simply trust (or know in the cases of those I know well) that the parents made the right decision for their child.

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Acceleration in grade level isn't often appropriate for younger children. They aren't socially and emotionally ready to be with peers that are several years older. College courses aren't an option for that age level either.

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Aha. 1) that's a negative stereotype adn 2) I don't support hsing in those cases. Many states have minimum requirements when it comes to hs'ing, including either a teaching license, Bachelor's Degree, etc. Some don't require the parents to have that, but require the parent to use a outsourced homeschool curriculum or to be in a co-op type situation.

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Registered: 11-03-2005
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 2:09pm
We'll have to agree to disagree.

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