Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3
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| Sat, 03-25-2006 - 9:59am |
A 2 year old and 17 month old twins. First she accomplished *that* through two surrogates! Wonderful what modern medicine can do.
Anyway, she doesnt work full time, she consults to several companies so is out of the home one full day then a few hours a day on other days. Sometimes for work, sometimes to go to the gym, etc.
She has a full time live in nanny, and two part time nannies. Essentially they always have someone with them and the kids. She feels she needs two to properly care for her three.
I immediately thought of all the comments her lifestyle would elicit from this board.
The day she and I met she had just come from a 2 hour session at the gym, and was then heading off to go do some shopping.
BTW, she's a complete rock star in industry, having 'retired' a year ago after a 30 year career that took her right up to the top of corporate America so she's definetly *earned* her right to do whatever the heck she wants.
But anyway, she feels she is a super hands on mom. I was curious what others would think?
MM

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I think it's too hard to make any broad generalisations. Each gifted child has to be looked at and treated as an individual. For some, acceleration might work. But the problem with acceleration for many truly gifted child is that it doesn't really address the basic learning needs that child has. A child can skip a grade or two, but he/she still learns far more rapidly and differently than his/her peers. It might solve the problem for a while as the child catches up with the new group, but the same issues may surface again several months later.
Some gifted children learn to cope with school reasonably well...they find ways to entertain themselves during school hours, stay engaged in the material and in the class even if none of it is new for them and generally benefit from the social interactions.
Others, I think, can benefit from homeschooling if there is simply no way to even remotely match up their educational needs with the school curriculum. Parents have to work harder to provide the necessary social milieu, but it may be better than having a child who is hopelessly out of sync with the education provided by the school
Why bother? You clearly don't mean it. I'm neither a fan of, nor particularly impressed by, passive aggressive pseudo-apologies that aren't apologetic and that attempt to circumvent social niceties--all in the alleged name of those niceties. Your non-apology was not apologetic; why go through the motions? Who is supposed to be impressed?
In any case, you also clearly demonstrate virtually no understanding of real estate, so it is perfectly understandable why you attempt to deride my post. It is of no consequence. There's not a successful real estate agent in the world who would disagree with me....besides, of course, the one holding that putrid 3 year listing.
Karen
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When I got to college, I loved and benefitted from the co-ed experience so much that I wrote a letter to the Editor of a local newspaper speaking out against single-sex education. I'd known girls who went to single-sex high schools and as a unit, their outlook on life was very...limited, to be polite.
Anyway, people traced which college I was going to and I actually got hate mail in response to my letter to the Editor. Imagine that! Innocent, lovable me getting people mad at me in a debate. I was nonplussed to say the least. ;)
Wonderful post. You took me right back there, too. Yet it goes so fast and somehow we survive to tell the tales, don't we?
I did it the opposite and had my twins first and then 16 months later another boy. So we had 3 under 3 for quite some time, lol. Three cribs. Three in diapers. Three times the colds, vomiting, and ear infections. You are right that the sheer volume of work was almost overwhemling. Literally every minute that all 3 were awake required constant supervision and/or interaction. And two adults made a huge difference. DH and I did alot of split-shifts and cared for them by ourselves frequently. We managed, but it was always such a relief to be together.
I don't think having extra help necessarily makes one automatically not a hands-on mom. But I do think her experience with 3 closely spaced kids will be very different from most. And it wasn't all work - there were plenty of great moments, too.
Those are some of the negatives that may effect some kids in a traditional setting, so it makes sense to bring them up.
Did you ever experience or witness any bullying? I don't equate the worlds evils with school socialization. I am only pointing out that it isn't all positive like you seem to believe and kids that are removed from it aren't all going to end up being socially retarded, trembling in a corner if they come into contact with it later rather than sooner.
Hey there,
Just coming into this really mid-stream, but I have to disagree with you. I bought a house in PG county (saw in your profile you live in DC/Baltimore area, so you should know where I'm talking about), and PG county has about the worst schools in the area. My house has appreciated about 50% in the YEAR since I've purchased it. In some markets and neighborhoods, school systems are just a minor player when compared to other, larger, trends that are occuring. If you know DC at all, think about the Logan Circle/Shaw area. The public schools there are HORRENDOUS, yet house values and sales are soaring out of sight. I think there is more to consider than schools....sometimes (maybe even most times) schools are a huge factor, but other times they are completely irrelevant.
Suzanne.
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Here's a link to each state's regulations re: laws for homeschooling. http://www.hslda.org/laws/default.asp
Let me pull out a few examples:
VA - parents must "Either: 1) possess a baccalaureate degree, or 2) be a certified teacher, or 3) use an approved correspondence course, or 4) submit evidence parent can teach and use curriculum that includes state objectives for language arts and math"
ND - parents must "Possess either: 1) a teaching certificate, or2) a baccalaureate degree, 3) a high school diploma or GED and be monitored by a certified teacher during first two years of home instruction; monitoring must continue thereafter if child scores below the 50th percentile on required standardized achievement test, or 4) proof of meeting or exceeding the cut-off score of the national teacher exam"
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