Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3

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Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3
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Sat, 03-25-2006 - 9:59am

A 2 year old and 17 month old twins. First she accomplished *that* through two surrogates! Wonderful what modern medicine can do.
Anyway, she doesnt work full time, she consults to several companies so is out of the home one full day then a few hours a day on other days. Sometimes for work, sometimes to go to the gym, etc.
She has a full time live in nanny, and two part time nannies. Essentially they always have someone with them and the kids. She feels she needs two to properly care for her three.
I immediately thought of all the comments her lifestyle would elicit from this board.
The day she and I met she had just come from a 2 hour session at the gym, and was then heading off to go do some shopping.
BTW, she's a complete rock star in industry, having 'retired' a year ago after a 30 year career that took her right up to the top of corporate America so she's definetly *earned* her right to do whatever the heck she wants.
But anyway, she feels she is a super hands on mom. I was curious what others would think?

MM

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 2:32pm
You're using an invalid evaluation process. The determinant of success of a homeschool child isn't whether or not that child scored better than other children were were traditionally schooled, but whether or not that child scored better than s/he would have had s/he been traditionally schooled.
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 2:34pm
Yes, I know what steet smarts means. What do you think it means?
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 2:34pm
no they cant. taking about something is way different than dealing with it. i remember when we were teaching my oldest daughter about stranger danger, she could sit on the sofa and tell you every rule and what you should do in every circumstance. she would then walk out the door and talk to anyone who would talk to her - to her, once they spoke to her they were no longer a stranger.
do you really believe that kids in public school are subjected to bad influences on a regular basis? it sounds like you know as little about public schools as you think other know about homeschooling
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 2:36pm

"soared"

Not compared to real estate appreciation in all of the surrounding Maryland counties. Montgomery Co., Howard, Anne Arundel and Charles have all posted much stronger gains in housing appreciation than PG County. All 4 counties have better school systems overall.

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 2:37pm
Interesting, those are some of my goals too.
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 2:37pm

My sil has a grandson that is unusually gifted and at age 4 attending a Montessori school neither his parents or teachers quite know what to do with him.

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 2:38pm
i would say they need to start learning from as soon as they start playing with other children. my 2 year old is learning how to react when the little neighbor girl pushes him down, and while at first he would push back we are working on better ways to deal with it, at the 2 year old level. part of maturity is learning to deal with adverse situations.
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 2:40pm
Yes there were and continue to be a lot of great moments.

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 2:41pm

I disagree. I think kids DO have to be exposed to bad influences from an early age to get practice dealing with them. This is one of the virtues of elementary school. The bad influences are still in the "I dare you to say the f-word really loud" level of mild badness. The stakes are low and the kids get several gentle years of learning to "just say no" to such things as swearing on the playground (to crib from eg3d). When they encounter higher stakes bad influence, the skills are in place. And it really DOES take practise. Just being told to by parents can't take the place of actually doing so (or not doing so and paying the price) many times.

So I would say that the lesson starts immediately in K, when a child must learn to resist the urge to keep playing with a friend when the k teacher says "line up", even when that friend keeps bouncing off the walls invitingly. (That's the mildest "bad influence" I could think of and one that K kids must learn to resist almost daily. So the lesson starts very mild and gets tougher and tougher with age. But it starts in K.)

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 2:42pm
Except that's NOT what less street smarts mean.

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