Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3

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Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3
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Sat, 03-25-2006 - 9:59am

A 2 year old and 17 month old twins. First she accomplished *that* through two surrogates! Wonderful what modern medicine can do.
Anyway, she doesnt work full time, she consults to several companies so is out of the home one full day then a few hours a day on other days. Sometimes for work, sometimes to go to the gym, etc.
She has a full time live in nanny, and two part time nannies. Essentially they always have someone with them and the kids. She feels she needs two to properly care for her three.
I immediately thought of all the comments her lifestyle would elicit from this board.
The day she and I met she had just come from a 2 hour session at the gym, and was then heading off to go do some shopping.
BTW, she's a complete rock star in industry, having 'retired' a year ago after a 30 year career that took her right up to the top of corporate America so she's definetly *earned* her right to do whatever the heck she wants.
But anyway, she feels she is a super hands on mom. I was curious what others would think?

MM

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 3:42pm
Limiting exposure is what I'm referring to. Some here seem to think that if a child is hs he/she is completely sheltered and unable to deal with peer pressure and some other potentially negative social situations. By the same token, kids who go to PS aren't automatically able to cope with those things well because they have more exposure. This is what I'm talking about.Limiting exposure isn't necessarily bad.
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 3:43pm
Not necessarily. More readily available though.
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 3:45pm
Not at all. Do you assume that those who homeschool shelter their children to the point that they can't function in society?
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 3:46pm
i can understand that, it is alot like when homeschoolers talk about the evils of public school (bullies, drugs, sex, peer pressure, etc....) i went thru public school, and my kids have been in public school now for 7 years and those are just not issues that face kids on a daily basis in public schools, assuming the parents have made a wise choice as where to raise their kids. and it seems to me if one is raising their kids in an area with really bad public schools the neighborhoods cant be much better, so i wouldnt want to raise my kids in that environment regardless of the schools.
Jennie
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 3:46pm
Not all homeschoolers stick out like a sore thumb.
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 3:47pm

Surely you realize that people have different things they value about where they live?

I love where I live so much that I do all sorts of crazy things to make it work. The quality of the local school system isn't unimportant but it doesn't trump a lot of other things I value. And once you've lived someplace for a while, the "change" factor comes into play. It doesn't always make sense to uproot and move to the better school district every few years.

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 3:47pm

Because for many the local public school system is but only one choice out of many?

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 3:48pm
I'm not under the impression that homeschooling in general limits exposure to normal life type situations... unless your specific goal is to limit exposure to normal life type situations... which seems like exactly what you are advocating. I can't think of a single situation in an elementary school setting that a child who is elementary age couldn't handle. (Unless we are speaking of an extraordinarily bad school, or an extraordinarily underdevloped child... I'm talking within one standard deviation of the mean here.) (that was for you Hollie)
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 3:49pm
Doesn't your public school system have an active, aggressive anti-bullying policy?

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 3:50pm
Heck, I never thought they did. I was just surprised that we were having this discussion in the context of homeschooling rather than a general context, since I didn't know it!

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