Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3

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Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3
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Sat, 03-25-2006 - 9:59am

A 2 year old and 17 month old twins. First she accomplished *that* through two surrogates! Wonderful what modern medicine can do.
Anyway, she doesnt work full time, she consults to several companies so is out of the home one full day then a few hours a day on other days. Sometimes for work, sometimes to go to the gym, etc.
She has a full time live in nanny, and two part time nannies. Essentially they always have someone with them and the kids. She feels she needs two to properly care for her three.
I immediately thought of all the comments her lifestyle would elicit from this board.
The day she and I met she had just come from a 2 hour session at the gym, and was then heading off to go do some shopping.
BTW, she's a complete rock star in industry, having 'retired' a year ago after a 30 year career that took her right up to the top of corporate America so she's definetly *earned* her right to do whatever the heck she wants.
But anyway, she feels she is a super hands on mom. I was curious what others would think?

MM

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 3:51pm

Identifying social risks quickly and accurately and responding accordingly.

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 3:54pm
No, I am not trying to advocate anything for everyone. I'm just saying that some kids benefit from some environments and others don't....that's all.
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 3:55pm
It took 2 full blown instances of bullying for a 5 year old kindergartener to be expelled from our elementary school last year.

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 3:56pm
Yes, but I'd be fooling myself if I thought that meant bullying must not exist in the school because of it.
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 3:56pm
It's more than possible; it happens all the time. Sometimes what happens is that parents don't really do anything wrong, but the kids' needs are complicated and the parents just don't "get it". Kids can be inward and secretive, so that parents don't know them as well as they think they do. Kids can have needs that parents can't meet, that they can't even understand because to some extent they live in different worlds. There's often a generation gap that can't be bridged with all the goodwill in the world, and kids can fall right through. OTOH, they can turn around again, too.


Edited 3/28/2006 4:58 pm ET by sabinamarianne
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 3:56pm
Why do you view the children as dealing with things completely on their own?

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 3:57pm
You don't think sex and drugs can fall under that category.
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 3:59pm
Ditto for us.

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 3:59pm
Of course, if they choose to discuss it.
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 4:00pm
It does exist. That's why you teach your kids how to deal with a bully and give them good tools to do so. I don't think a good solution is making sure they never come in contact with a bully.

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