Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3

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Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3
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Sat, 03-25-2006 - 9:59am

A 2 year old and 17 month old twins. First she accomplished *that* through two surrogates! Wonderful what modern medicine can do.
Anyway, she doesnt work full time, she consults to several companies so is out of the home one full day then a few hours a day on other days. Sometimes for work, sometimes to go to the gym, etc.
She has a full time live in nanny, and two part time nannies. Essentially they always have someone with them and the kids. She feels she needs two to properly care for her three.
I immediately thought of all the comments her lifestyle would elicit from this board.
The day she and I met she had just come from a 2 hour session at the gym, and was then heading off to go do some shopping.
BTW, she's a complete rock star in industry, having 'retired' a year ago after a 30 year career that took her right up to the top of corporate America so she's definetly *earned* her right to do whatever the heck she wants.
But anyway, she feels she is a super hands on mom. I was curious what others would think?

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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 8:59am
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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 9:01am

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Then that is really NOT what I am saying.

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 9:03am
i have yet to see anything that happens in elementary school that a normal child that age would not be able to handle, with a little guidance and support from teachers and parents. but i would say the same about middle school and high school. okay, you will say that middle school kids should not have to deal with kids giving blow jobs in the bathrooms, i agree, but i dont think the majority of kids deal with that and i dont believe it is an every day occurance. and the reality is i have yet to meet a middle school aged kid who doesnt know what a blow job is.
Jennie
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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 9:05am
i think i mentioned that somewhere else. how does one mature without experiences adn without having to deal with the bad as well as the good. i just dont buy that age equals maturity. i guess i have just seen way too many immature adults.
Jennie
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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 9:11am
like i told mom2four my daughter had alot of the same attributes going for her and it didnt mean a thing - and my daughter had already changed schools 3 times so she thought she knew what to expect, but she was thrown for a loop. she has told me that she will never change schools again until she is out of high school, and knwoing how hard it is i will do my best to protect her from having to do that again.
Jennie
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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 9:11am

Low blow and totally uncalled for.

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 9:18am
It doesn't have anything to do with public/private school. Perhaps I confused a couple of posts, but I thought this sub-thread concerned social influences at school in general. At any rate, I agree with you that certain activities can at least help to keep kids from falling in with a dangerous crowd. And that's why my friend (actually, she's my cousin too, and the sister of the one who died) makes her ds stay in the orchestra ;-)
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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 9:19am
I don't know about that. Dh first smoked pot at band camp. But he was in the jazz band.
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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 9:19am
but what does that have to do with how he was educated? while tragic, the fact is that there will always be some kids who do not "make it" but i dont think you lay that blame on the method used to educate them. i have a friend who homeschooled her kids, her youngest daughter was pregnant at 13 and chose to keep the baby. while i have not kept in contact with them i doubt that she had very ideal teen years.
Jennie
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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 9:31am

Your post highlights why I find this "whole homeschooling is good, public schooling is evil debate" so difficult to understand. When I was in school, the peer pressure I was exposed to was nothing but positive: my friends, classmates and I competed for good grades! You were a loser if you didn't study, do your homework or repeatedly volunteered the wrong answer in class.

It's like sibling rivalry ~ it can be a positive. Socialization can be a great motivator. The bad influences ruin those students who were probably having problems completely unrelated to school. The average student with an average social life and ordinary home life will ignore bad influences and may even become a band-nerd, sports-enthusiast or good student. And with effective zero tolerance policies and plenty of resources/activities, the average student these days is encouraged to do well, not fail or succumb to the few bad influences they are infrequently exposed to.

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