Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3

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Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3
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Sat, 03-25-2006 - 9:59am

A 2 year old and 17 month old twins. First she accomplished *that* through two surrogates! Wonderful what modern medicine can do.
Anyway, she doesnt work full time, she consults to several companies so is out of the home one full day then a few hours a day on other days. Sometimes for work, sometimes to go to the gym, etc.
She has a full time live in nanny, and two part time nannies. Essentially they always have someone with them and the kids. She feels she needs two to properly care for her three.
I immediately thought of all the comments her lifestyle would elicit from this board.
The day she and I met she had just come from a 2 hour session at the gym, and was then heading off to go do some shopping.
BTW, she's a complete rock star in industry, having 'retired' a year ago after a 30 year career that took her right up to the top of corporate America so she's definetly *earned* her right to do whatever the heck she wants.
But anyway, she feels she is a super hands on mom. I was curious what others would think?

MM

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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 12:49pm
I think the reasons the hs'ers here hs is not "to keep my kids away from all the evils of public school". I think it comes across that way because they're in a debate. But in a non-confrontational atmosphere, they'd be able to express why they hs and it wouldn't be "to keep my kids away from all the evils of public school".
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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 12:52pm
Right back at ya.
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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 12:55pm

So if that is the way it comes across how do you know what that the purpose is something other than what is coming across?


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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 1:01pm

What's confrontational about a largely anonymous debate board?

The fact is that socialization and "peer dependence" (?) are the only topics being discussed. I certainly send my children to public school for many, many reasons other than socialization. But we're not discussing those things.

If hs'ers are saying something different IRL than they are on this board, which is the truth?

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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 1:02pm

"I was a live in nanny but not on duty 24/7. Most weeknight evenings I went to my room a couple of hours before the twins went to bed so they could all have family time. I had almost all weekends free. Just because a nanny is there 24/7 doesn't mean she's actually working or even with the family. Also many people consider their nannies as one of the family, just like a grandparent or aunt or uncle being around."

Exactly! With us at least, the nanny clocks off at 5 p.m. week nights. DH or I take over depending on who is home. Weekends she is off except the once or month or so "date" night...

She starts most days at 8 a.m. and her days end at 5 p.m. 40 hours a week is it.

MM

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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 1:06pm
i don't believe a good many of homeschoolers are *gifted* at all. if anything, they're the gifted flunkies, meaning they didn't test in for gifted at school, they were bored or their parents are consumed with some other reason all together why to homeschool....i think most *gifted* are either excelling in GT programs in traditional school or are in expensive alternative/private schools that only take such triple a students. one in particular comes to mind here, it's called THE HONOR ROLL SCHOOL.

 

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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 1:10pm
Because I don't have an agenda and am able to read it without some presupposition.
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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 1:13pm

Do you think the mother you described in the OP showed financial restraint by only hiring one full time nanny and two part time nannies in training?


Do you think she's a good mother because she has opportunities to be away from her kids for 40 or 60 or more hours per week, but she's only gone for 15 hours?

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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 1:13pm

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That's my point. Since the topic is "socialization", all you're exposed to are their thoughts re: socialization. They aren't talking about the 83 other reasons they hs, because it isn't part of the subject matter. And because you're only seeing 1 topic, it is being assumed it is the ONLY or PRIMARY reason they hs. And I don't think it is.

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They're not saying somthing *different* IRL, but something more... because the MORE isn't the topic of this thread.

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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 1:14pm

What in the world are you basing that on?


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