Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3

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Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3
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Sat, 03-25-2006 - 9:59am

A 2 year old and 17 month old twins. First she accomplished *that* through two surrogates! Wonderful what modern medicine can do.
Anyway, she doesnt work full time, she consults to several companies so is out of the home one full day then a few hours a day on other days. Sometimes for work, sometimes to go to the gym, etc.
She has a full time live in nanny, and two part time nannies. Essentially they always have someone with them and the kids. She feels she needs two to properly care for her three.
I immediately thought of all the comments her lifestyle would elicit from this board.
The day she and I met she had just come from a 2 hour session at the gym, and was then heading off to go do some shopping.
BTW, she's a complete rock star in industry, having 'retired' a year ago after a 30 year career that took her right up to the top of corporate America so she's definetly *earned* her right to do whatever the heck she wants.
But anyway, she feels she is a super hands on mom. I was curious what others would think?

MM

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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 1:16pm

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While I don't think that most hs'ed children are gifted, I think the above statement is bunk. The young gifted students here don't have either of those options. And the older gifted don't have the option of expensive alternative/private schools. And I can name dozens of school districts with the same constraints.

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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 1:17pm

I don't have an agenda on this subject

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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 1:18pm
How about the 45 times mom4 has stated that she has numerous reasons that she hs?
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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 1:18pm
i so disagree.......i think this debate brings out what you see buried in real life atmospheres. i know more homeschoolers irl than here and i find them to be much more head strong, superior yet touchy feely and sensitive because they homeschool.....sure they're non confontional because they aren't very approachable. jmoho.

 

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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 1:24pm

You mean while also stating all the

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 1:26pm

She apologized and explained her comments.

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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 1:26pm

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Ehh, because I"m giving them the benefit of the doubt.

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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 1:30pm

So you are totaling

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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 1:32pm
Mine would be 99, 101, 101 and 120. My parents are 74 and 76. I am 41 and my sons are 9 and 6. ONe lived to 99.5, one to 87. One died at 52 of uncontrolled diabetes and alcoholism and one died at 39 of an ectopic pregnacy- all their siblings lived to 85-99 (except the one who died of a bee sting).
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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 1:36pm

Do you think the mother you described in the OP showed financial restraint by only hiring one full time nanny and two part time nannies in training?"

Does it matter PNJ? Did I say she showed financial "restraint?" Hiring one 40 hour a week nanny and two part time when your income is what their is, is not financially irresponsible. Far from it.
But no, she doesnt show "restraint" as that would be not hiring any help.

"Do you think she's a good mother because she has opportunities to be away from her kids for 40 or 60 or more hours per week, but she's only gone for 15 hours?"

Again, did I say that?

I think she's a good mother, for the four hundredth time, based on what she told me about what she does with the kids, how she feels about her kids, and how she seems as a person (calm, smart, engaged).

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