Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3

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Met a mom last week with 3 kids under 3
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Sat, 03-25-2006 - 9:59am

A 2 year old and 17 month old twins. First she accomplished *that* through two surrogates! Wonderful what modern medicine can do.
Anyway, she doesnt work full time, she consults to several companies so is out of the home one full day then a few hours a day on other days. Sometimes for work, sometimes to go to the gym, etc.
She has a full time live in nanny, and two part time nannies. Essentially they always have someone with them and the kids. She feels she needs two to properly care for her three.
I immediately thought of all the comments her lifestyle would elicit from this board.
The day she and I met she had just come from a 2 hour session at the gym, and was then heading off to go do some shopping.
BTW, she's a complete rock star in industry, having 'retired' a year ago after a 30 year career that took her right up to the top of corporate America so she's definetly *earned* her right to do whatever the heck she wants.
But anyway, she feels she is a super hands on mom. I was curious what others would think?

MM

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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 1:46pm
Because I dont' believe either side actually believes in what they've written to the degree they've written it. Both sides are hyperbolizing, exaggerating, and digging their heels in to prove their point, and in doing so are proving something they don't even believe themselves.
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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 1:49pm

Yes, housing in the DC area has soared. Every neighborhood has been affected. However, the neigborhoods with the best schools have been and will be a better investment. Their re-sell ability will be much much easier- in all kinds of markets.

We bought our house in the Washington DC area in NOVEMBER in 1996. Near the end of the 7 year flat housing market and in one of the worst months to sell a house. The house sold within a week and had two offers. Why? Location location location- in one of the best school pyrimids and the best elementary school within the district in the county, close to most everything. I am confident that our house will hold its inflated value much more than a house bought in Shaw or Logan's Cricle or Brookland or P.G. County. My old boss bought a new house for 1/3 more at the same time in P.G., our house is now valued significantly higher than hers.

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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 1:51pm

Interesting post.

Got vitriol?

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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 1:54pm

That I can understand.


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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 2:01pm

are you saying your elementary doesn't have a GT (other districts call it different things) program? i would think if public offers special ed, they would have the capability to offer accelerated programs as well.

and about the older kids that don't have the options of expensive schools? that's why i believe most truly *gifted* sit in those expensive schools instead of homeschool. i believe a really, truly gifted child has a gifted, very intelligent parent who is now some million dollar guru that can afford to pay for a private school instead of a homeschool sect.

 

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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 2:01pm

Sorry, I must have missed that post. I haven't been able to keep up completely with the threads lately as I have been pretty overwhelmed at work. If you felt she stepped over the line, there is a place at the bottom of the message that you can click on to report a possible TOS violation.

What I am most concerned about is things heating up and the thread getting closed. When a thread is closed, the decision can be made to put a warning mark against every single person who participated in the thread, regardless of whether they were involved in the heated sub-thread or not. I would absolutely hate to lose anymore people on the board as I really enjoy having you all here.

btw, I see you discovered the fun new emoticons :-).

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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 2:09pm

I couldnt agree more with that. In my experience, I personally "fell in" with a bad crowd for about 2 years when I was 13/14. It was all due to what was going on at home and beyond.
I smartened up on my own thank goodness as my parents were clueless as to how to cope.
I recall that all those kids too had bad situations at home. Way way worse than mine which actually helped scare me into straightening up my own act!

MM

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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 2:10pm
That is not my experience with hs'ers at all. One of my closest friends homeschools, and I know several other people who do so as well. They're all quite approachable and willing to discuss the reasons they hs, which are numerous, quite varied, and have nothing to do with public schools being "evil." In fact, I know two large families that hs some of their children and send some to ps. The hs'ers I know include both the liberal, crunchy granola type and the conservative Christian type. It's really a lot like the sah/woh debate. They do think that hs is "better," at least for their families, but it's nowhere near as extreme as the comments I'm seeing here.
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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 2:14pm

There are plenty of districts with no gifted education programming whatsoever.

Special education is federally mandated. Gifted ed is not.

Here's a map showing you different gifted ed policies for different states. (But just because a state doesn't mandate or fund a gifted ed program doesn't mean there aren't such programs. And just because a state mandates it, it doesn't mean every district is in compliance and provides an appropriate gifted education program.)

http://www.gt-cybersource.org/StatePolicy.aspx?NavID=4_0

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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 2:15pm
>>It was all due to what was going on at home and beyond <<
ita mm. *wrong crowd* packs have wrong backdoor stuff at home.....parents that believe these are all and only kids faults, normal rites of passages or an individual problem because the other child(ren) turned out just fine are out of touch. parents have a responsibility to tailor their parenting to each individual child, not measure one kid against the next and just hope they all turn out fine and dandy. imo.

 

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